I have two children by a guy with whom the relationship didn't work out (for various reasons). We however remain civil and both have the kids best interest at heart. I asked another question and an "answerer" stated that I needed to "get out more and socialize with the opposite sex and not just for the sex either". Socializing with the opposite sex is pretty much what started all this. N E Way, my question is this...Is it really necessary to have a partner in order to be complete? I have heard horror stories about how children are abused and harmed by a stepparent or "their mother's boyfriend". I have male friends and even date occasionally some really nice guys. But, I refuse to let them near my children, because I am just so fearful. I mean who knows...
2007-02-16 17:59:06 · 5 answers · asked by Patrice F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Girl no one needs another partner to be complete inside..Some are more than happy to just take care of their children and live life to the fullest...I can understand your fear when it comes to your children though but remember,,all men are not like the ones or one you remember...There are some awesome men in this world you just have to take your time and get to know them..Slowly I Pray...God will reveal to your heart whom you can trust then you will feel safe introducing him to your children..I applaud you for protecting your children as you do...Would be a wonderful world if everyone did that...Just take your time,,enjoy life and allow God to lead you to the next one..Dont rush,,enjoy your children while they are still young...God bless you
2007-02-16 18:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly, "who knows"? Yeah, you could screw up and land a wicked step-father type. But you could also hook up with super-dad. And the odds are about the same. More than likely you will find a nice human being with many eexcellent qualities and a few flaws. No you don't neccessarily need a partner. But your anxiety is over the top and no reason to deny your children or yourself a husband and father.
2007-02-17 02:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by juicy_wishun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not necessary, but, since kids model behavior it is nice to have a positive male figure in their lives every day. No matter how fantastic of a parent you are, you can't be a man. Little girls benefit by seeing what a real man is, and how a woman (you, and herself) should be treated. Little boys learn how to be a man. Of course you are right to be cautious, but if you ever fall in love with a truly good man then it will only benefit you all.
You don't "need" a man to be complete though.
2007-02-17 02:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually its the other way around. You have to be complete inside first before you can have a fruitful relationship. I tend to think that you don't need a partner to feel complete. There's so much to life that is fulfilling and enriching.
2007-02-17 03:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not necessary. In fact I believe it's easier minus a mate. (At least the mate I had.......note, 'HAD')
All hell usually broke out when he came home. It was worse than having another child. He was by no means a parent.
2007-02-17 02:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋