How would you feel and what do you think?

Question

When I was w/ my ex, I helped him thru suicide feelings and depression. He put me through alot. Well, he ended our relationship but wasn't truthful as to why. He wanted to get to know the girl that made him feel this way because she got pregnant w/ his child before we met. Anyhow, I had a diffifcult time dealing and had to find out what else he lied to me about, I found out alot more, one was he said hurtful things about me to this person when I did nothing but help him. He lied to me becasue he knew I was a "good" girl, classy and not trashy and didnt want me to know his secrets. Anyhow, I called him and left him a message. I told him, he was a liar, manipulator, trash, ungrateful for what I did for him, and that he was everything he said he wasn't. Well, he cant confront me and said he does not want to talk to me?! Do you think he is ashamed?How can someone treat another human being this way, knowing what I didfor him and how I cared?I know he is a liar, but do liars even feel shame?

Could he be mentall ill, I told him that also, and he needs prof help. I did as much as I could. Will he ever realize what he did to me and everything I did for him. This was not a joke, the mental aspect of it has consumed me:( Anyone can relate??

Answer 1

time to move on and let bygones be bygones get a life have a holiday just get out and do different things change your way of eating,drinking ,physical fitness ---there is so much more than even thinking of such a loser ----learn by your mistake and try not to go down this road again-----yes be kind and considerate but you have a right to expect something back-----so go out and enjoy.......

Answer 2

Yes I do relate. I was married 20 years, worked hard to help pay for the house and build a business and he decided he wanted another women. Well he got her but not for long she left him after about 8 months and his work started falling apart. Don't even waste your time feeling sorry or worrying about this guy. He didn't deserve you in the first place. Find someone that will treat you right and respect you the way you should be respected.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

I'm sorry about your situation, but some people have been lying for so long that they're not affected anymore by it. He probably doesn't feel ashamed, but he's nothing put the pure essence of bullcrap and you shouldn't of even blessed him w/ your presence. People like him aren't going anywhere, don't nobody want 'em.

If he's tryin' to give you grief just be quick to correct him, say something like: Excuse me, you f*uckin' failure but maybe you forgot who you're talkin' to! I'm no average woman you're dealing with so maybe you need to know you're not the only person w/ a dick in this world that wants me. Watch who you're disrepecting before I beat YOUR ***. Suicide will be lookin' pretty damn good after I get thru with you.

Don't take sh*t from anyone because you're above it all.

Answer 4

In your Q, 3rd sentence, you stated evidence as to the character of the person you've invested your feelings in. Do you think you are worth more than an liar?

Who knows what level of shame a liar will ever reach because they're liars, they'll never tell the truth of their true self or feelings. Why trouble yourself wondering?

He apparently isn't worthy, dust yourself off and get on to better beginnings.

Been there & done that!

Answer 5

Typically when someone is as manipulative as that they have very low selfesteem. Unless there is a mojor physce change the answers are probably no. He will not feel shame or remorse because the only way he is able to feel better about himself is by trying to pull others down so he raises himself up. Fortunately this is generally apparent to anyone with any snap at all.

Answer 6

I can relate.
EXAMPLE: sister!
She is the worst person to live with,
though you did not live w/ur ex (as far as I know, sry)
Well, this morning she was on the computer,
and was Fiddling with myspace (as usual)
and it wasn't working. So she starts screaming and flipping out,
I ask whats wrong. She tells me in the most ungrateful way.
Im good at computers you see, so I just walk away. (who wants to be treated like that?) I had done nothing to her and she flipped out on me! Starts cursing. Through the whole "computers" thing I had only helped, & what do I get? NOTHING. no thank you. Then I "accidently" deleted something. She FLIPS out in a cursing manner and screams "I HATE U and LEAVE ME THE F*** ALONE, I'm never speaking to you again.) But, you shouldn't feel bad. What you did was right. And yes he is ashamed, because now you found out what he said and he dosen't want to tell you to your face because you'll see right through him. He's only thinking of himself.

Answer 7

You were his pillow for the time he was away from little miss knocked up with the demon seed and now that you know that you feel like he owes you for services rendered. Meanwhile stuff didn't workout for dipstick with mother of said demon seed, and he's not coming back to you cause his plan didn't work so he knows he's a D-head. Now he's in the market for a new pillow. You both are on the outs and guess what? MiaMia is going to be smart and start aknew. No worries G/F.

Answer 8

Hmm telling someone they need help is a bad idea. usually they already think they are allways right. ther is no way to talk to someone when the ego is bigger than themselves. he probably knows he is wrong but as a guy he wont admit it. that is just the way it goes.. to confront him is only fuelling a defense fire. it would be best to just let him go and never return his callls or see him. dont give anyone any reason to put you second best! you should think better of yourself and say"this aint cool and I am better than that!! be positive and in control and things will turn for the better.