do you think parent who has a lot kids love them the same ?

Question

my parent has a lot kids 11 and they dont love them the same they have pets within the family.so wether you have a lot of kids are a few do you treat them the same according to there personality.

Answer 1

I think parents definitely do treat their kids differently, but I don't think it's because they love one more than the other. I believe it is due to different children having different personalities. Also, if you have multiple children, you're going to be dealing with different age ranges and you can't deal with a four year old the same way that you would deal with someone who is eleven.

I don't have any children, but based on my own experience of growing up with two sisters and a brother, a big factor of how parents treat their children depends on the age and the personality of the child.

I was a quiet child and I hardly misbehaved before the age of five. Consequently, I might have been viewed as being treated better by my older brother, when in reality I was not doing things to get myself into trouble as much and therefore I hardly ever got disciplined.

Also, because I was younger, they held me to a lighter standard than an older sibling, because I was young and naive.

Then, there is the issue of sex. Stereotypically parents will give greater freedom to boys at a younger age than they will to girls when it comes to leaving the house.

This is not due to preferring one sibling to another, but rather due to the perceived notion that a young girl is statistically more likely to be a victim of a crime.

That's not to say that there may indeed be parents out there that do have preferences, but I believe them to be in the minority.

Answer 2

That is a good question that deserves a good answer. Ideally you want to treat all of your children the same but truthfully you tend to root for the child that needs you the more mainly because the physical or emotional runt needs your attention more than your other children will.

Bottom Line: It is sometimes hard to ignore the child that is probably the pet and there are so many reason for that.( the child might be the one that you have to watch more and the others might not need you so much as the ones you focus on.) Remember the job of a parent is to free you one day and to prepare you to be an able citizen that contributes to society in a positive way.

Answer 3

Some kids are rotten but parents are supposed to love ALL of their children unconditionally. Of course the child that is the best behaved, the most accepting, the most respectful, and the kindest will get treated better. That doesn't mean that they are loved anymore than the other children. They may get special treatment yes because they are deserving it with their actions just as a bad child should be punished for his actions. I know a family that had 26 children.

Answer 4

I agree with Dyan, you love each of your children differently, but with the same amount of love. I came from a family of 10, and I now have 5 of my own. I love them all, but each of them are different, and have different qualities that I love. I know how you feel though, coming from a large family, you sometimes feel like you're being overlooked. But, as siblings we all grew up to very close. Sometimes being from a big family helps you prepare with how to deal with all different kinds of people in all different kinds of environments. You learn acceptance, patience and sharing fairly quickly. I remember thinking that my parents had favorites, but funny thing, through the years their favorites jumped from person to person. I realized a lot more once I had kids of my own. However, I know that some parents do show favoritism, which I think is thoughtless and mean to the other children.

Answer 5

I also have what I consider alot of kids. I have 3 of my own and 2 step children. I have a different love for all of them but I love all of them just as much as the other. I do not have a favorite because they are all my favorites. It may seem like i favor one more than the other some days and some days it will change but there is definatly no "pets" in my house!!!!!

Answer 6

I don't see how you could pay the same amount of attention to each child and, of course, love for everyone is different even if it is equal. So it may seem like they favor one or two but I really hope this isn't true. I have three kids and I love them very differently but not one more than the other.

Answer 7

Wow- that is a loaded question. I am a mother of 3 children and I have to say that I don't love my children the same. You can't love 3 very different people exactly the same. They all have different personalities and different needs and wants. Anyone that tells you that they love their kids the same is lying. It's just not possible. I love my kids to death- don't get me wrong- I just love them differently because they are different people!

Answer 8

You love them the same (in terms of quantity amount) but you do treat them differently because they all have their own personality and more importantly their own quirks.
Some will get into trouble and then parents discipline them but that doesn't mean they love them any less.
They do tend to have their favourites.

Answer 9

NO because children are like snoflakes EACH has their own personality but NO MATTER WHAT you LOVE them all THE SAME

Answer 10

I have four children, each of them have their own personality and each of them have something special. I love them all the same. I cannot imagine loving one more than the other.