Well i've known my boyfriend for a year but we havent been friends(like on a talking basis) for the whole year, maybe like 3ish months. We recently started dating and i know that i LOVE him. I've been in Love/Lust relationships b4 and this isnt like that at all. We have real conversations and what not and we can just have fun with eachother and its not about SEX. but his ex broke his heart and he tells me how he wont say that word for a very long time(im NOT trying to make/get him to say it) but if i was to say it one day i dont want him to just like shoot me down. but back to the question at hand Do you guys/girls believe in Love at first sight or even that you dont have to know the person for years to fall in love with someone?
2007-02-16 17:30:32 · 9 answers · asked by Soon2B~Jalen's Mommy~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*Sigh* Yes, I do believe it in, because of something that happened to me. However, I also think that the meaning of "being in love" is subjective. It happened to me when I first locked eyes with a guy (herein called R) in my English Comp class in college. It's funny how we sat next to each other for the first couple of weeks maybe, but never looked at each other until the professor paired us up for an exercise.
So when I looked over at him, all I saw was his lightning blue eyes staring back at me (seriously, everything else was blurred out), and I felt a jolt in my upper body (like when you hear a sudden gun shot in a movie, and it feels like you jumped 10 feet but didn't). I quickly looked away - couldn't handle it - and immediately knew that I wanted to be in a relationship with him. And I swear he felt the same emotions; it's like I could read his mind. Luckily, a student came in late and had to join us in the exercise. That calmed the awkwardness down because we were both stunned.
Soon after, maybe a week, he asked me out. We hung out, got along great, and enjoyed each other (and he came on to me a couple of times), but I couldn't pursue this because we were both seeing other people who lived out of town. I didn't keep in touch with him over Christmas break, but while I was home, I decided to break it off with my b/f and tell R that I was his if he wanted me. My b/f at the time was a jerk anyway. When I ran into R that January, we did a little shopping and he told me he had married his g/f. That was the biggest heartbreak of my life. Unfortunately, when he told me he was married, he began by saying, "My life is in shambles." He didn't marry her because he wanted to, but because he would lose her otherwise.
So ANYWAY, even though it didn't work out and though he still loved his girl, we still experienced an instant BAM, if you will, in which we both wanted to be together even though we didn't each other. But, hey, I never said love at first sight always works out so neatly! I wouldn't trade this experience for anything though. Love at first sight is rare, and I had it!!!
2007-02-18 11:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by Opal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can easily fall in love with the right person anytime. In my case it was a few dates, but then be careful not to scare the other person saying it too soon. Feel it out for a little while first.
Good luck
2007-02-16 17:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We didn't have sex. But my bf and I said I love you 14 days after dating. We've been dating for over a year.
2016-03-28 23:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have some history,thats not exactly love at first sight .i'm not sure about love at 1st sight but i do believe everyone has a sole mate somewhere.
2007-02-16 18:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by BUSHIDO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel openly and honestly, and at the same time,tell him not to say one word.. keep him silent,so it will give him time to think.. good luck:).. but love at first sight is NOT realistic.. it is more attraction than anything else.
2007-02-16 17:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's love!
Of course there's such a thing as love at first sight! Bear with me, it's a long answer.
Love at first sight is real. Because true love is from God. I'm a Christian, I believe in God! And for that reason I believe that there is love at first sight. God sometimes maybe lets people (like me) see right away who He intended them to love and marry.
Love is different with everyone because we are all different! You can't describe true love for anyone! Everyone's experience of loving or being in love is totally unique. Because we area all unique!
I am so tired of the people that say smugly, "i believe in lust at first sight" because they don't know. I don't have problems with lust, and I have experienced that feeling of "wow, look, there he is, the guy I was created for". I just looked at his eyes from the side and I got that feeling. I wasn't looking at his body at all.
Please believe me- that even if it hasn't happened to you, or never will, it is POSSIBLE
Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and wierd and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me :)} at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight.
As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more.
Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them?
Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.
I fell in love from first sight with someone I have only met twice in the past two years I still am. For many reasons in a long story, we can't contact each other, nor do we "date" so there isn't a questions of all that "faithfulness" junk. But I knew at the first second that I was made for him and someday God will see we marry and live happily ever after. Sometime I will type up the whole story and post it on every "love at first sight" page and question and blog in the whole wide internet.
Again, I am not saying that love at first sight is the only right kind of love. Maybe you will hate the person you eventually fall in love with! Maybe it will take you years to gradually love them! Who knows? I am not saying that it is the only true kind of love. With some people, it may take a while to fall in love with their soulmate. But love at first sight is so very possible! Sometimes the good Lord is kind enough to show you right away. Like he showed me.
The moment I saw him standing there, I knew all about him. His character- how kind and sweet he was, how helpful and patient. And don't say I was judging a book by its cover. Later in the day I met up with him again and talked to him for five hours at that wedding reception. And my first impression- that split second thought of "this is who I was created for and am meant to marry" was strengthened. And he is in my every thought and dream. I don't give a passing thought or glance to anyone else- it's just out of the question. I’ve only seen him only 3 times over the years. It’s been so long. But I still love him! I do! It’s real!
I fell in love when I was only 13. But that’s how old Juliet was, and it was love at first sight and no one questions her! No one says “Oh, Juliet was so dumb, she didn’t REALLY love romeo, she just killed herself because she THOUGHT she did”. Why should people say that about me?
There is love at first sight.
Not lust.
Not infatuation.
Not a crush.
Not a passing attraction.
Real, true, lasting, beautiful, perfect love.
Believe!
2007-02-17 05:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by nemo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i met my hubby at a gas station, and i knew as soon as he walked in that he was the one,
2007-02-16 17:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and yes
2007-02-16 17:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by bella767676 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah i believe so
2007-02-16 17:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋