two of my guy friends asked me out, i have known them for years and since i am single now, they both asked me out as to date, and i said No because i like just to be friends with em. I don't want to talk with them as much because don't want to talk about it anymore, so sometimes i ignore their calls, am i right to do that? I wonder how guys think???
2007-02-16 16:52:47 · 9 answers · asked by cutiepieaww 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have a right to your own space and to be comfortable in it. If talking with these friends of yours so soon after they admitted feelings for you makes you uncomfortable then you definitely have the right to take some time to yourself to reflect on the situation for a while. Just don't let it go on too long without tending to the friendship part of the relationship others wise you may end up losing that and you may find that talking with them openly actually eases the tension that has been recently caused as long as you have been up front with both of them and explained that just friend is the way you want to be.
2007-02-16 17:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by ct_girl02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring their calls isn't right, you should talk to them. However, if you told them you don't want to date them, then they should not bring up the issue again. You should respect each others decisions.
2007-02-17 00:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's either ending the relationship, or answering the calls and telling them each that you have no desire whatsoever in dating them and that if they want to stay your friend then they need to find another outlet for their affection. Be firm.
2007-02-17 00:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by ExperienceD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that is not right u should not ruin your friendship and u should talk to them more if they bring it up then just change the subject but dont ignore them unless u r mad at them
2007-02-17 00:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by tough_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to get through to them that you just want to be friends.
2007-02-17 00:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by its only... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont alienate them... dont try to pretend its the same as it was before.. just explain to them why u turned them down and things should return to normal... just dont dwell on the past, strive for the future
2007-02-17 01:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this way you will be able to get the best guy at the end.
it can get on their nerves sometimes, but if it does: STAY AWAY FROM THEM! They do not love you if something like that can trigger them.
2007-02-17 01:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them, tell them how u feel about just being friends. if they really r ur friends they'll understand that u just want to be friends
2007-02-17 00:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...it probably would hurt their feelings..
but at least ur not showing mixed signals...just keep letting them know u just want to be friends...
2007-02-17 00:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by A Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋