So i like this guy from my church, and i've known him forever. Anyways, we've just started hanging out more at our high school and he told one of my friends that he had feelings for me. This was last year though. Since then he's been back and forth either coming on to me or avoiding looking at me in the halls. I really want this to go somewhere but i cant seem to read what he's feeling. I know there's something there but if there is why is it not enough for him to take a step? Should i make a move? What should that be? By the way, i'm not the hugely outgoing type, like, dont tell me to just run up and kiss him and see what he says or anything like that...it's not hapnin!
2007-02-16 16:25:02 · 8 answers · asked by 17*mezzo*17 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy is obviously a bit silent as well.(Another thing you have in common perhaps). By telling a friend or yours he obviously took the first step. You might not think as so but he wanted for you to find out but not to be present if you were to reject him and therefore have an open chance to continue trying. By now he thinks you know he likes you from what your friend told you, and is probably scared you will reject him if you see him. SInce you two have known for quite a while try calling him or text message him, something that he is bound to answer, is a step towards a relationship, and is not so obvious as going up and kissing him. By doing this you are opening communication and you are also letting him know that you have not rejected him.
2007-02-16 16:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by wiseob3oo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be as scared as you are but doesnt show it or he confused about his feelings for you. Why not go out and get a burger or something and talk see where that goes. who says that making a move has be physical anyways flirt alittle bit with him seems if he responses and if he does maybe try hold his hand if he lets you and if he does all signs are go at the very least heading in the right direction.
2007-02-16 16:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dark_Fire_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make your move. if it doesn't work out at least you tried. don't do anything crazy, just ask if he's doing anything next sunday and maybe mention a nice place for sunday brunch and maybe he'll get the hint and ask you. if not, you can hint more by saying something like you think he'd really like it there and maybe you two can go some time? if he still doesn't pick up on this, either he's not into you or he's too dense to date!
2007-02-16 16:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mike H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't run up to him and kiss him, but if youre not willing to go up to him and tell him what's on your mind then do you have a friend that you can trust to give him a note? It sounds like he still has feelings for you, but he is getting frustrated that you aren't taking a step towards him (in his mind). One of you is going to have to crap or get off the pot!
2007-02-16 16:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by ExperienceD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would make an excuse to see him outside of school and outside of church - like organise something where you will be with him and a group of mutual other people as well - and flirt with him subtebly and casually ask if he has any plans for.....whenever and whether he would like to go to the movies or go for a coffee or something. just say it really casually maybee even plan to go somewhere with one of your friends and casually ask if he would like to come along. is he shy too?
2007-02-16 16:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by pinkchampagne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait till something comes up to ask him to go with you. That would be a good reason to ask him without you feeling pressure either way. It could even be a family deal that you go to.
Good luck.
2007-02-16 16:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he might be confused about what he wants, could be nervousness, or he just doesnt know how you feel...if there is any way of letting him know how you feel then do it...even if you have to tell a friend that you know is going to tell everyone then so be it...it will eventually get around to him.
2007-02-16 16:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time your with him bring him to a secluded place. Pull down your knickers. He will know that you like him
2007-02-16 16:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋