fighting w./ boyfriends&friends,humiliating myself, ive even gotten rides from ppl I don't no. I still drank thru all this until about 2 months ago. I went 2 a bar w./ my friends. I dont remeber the bar but on the way home one of my friends dropped me off at my car(which was at another friends house) I dont remember drivin but I woke up upside down covered in glass&blood (sry 2 be gory) I was totally out of it but the EMTs pulled me out the window..and there was my car completely totaled upside in a ditch. I had ran into an electrical box & rolled my car over 2x..Some1 saved me I am convinced bc it was an awful accident and all I had was some stitches. But my problem is I have stopped drinking and don't no wat 2 do w./ myself. I don't know how to meet ppl w/o going out. I miss partyin.I am at this point where I need 2 change but I dont no where to go or wat 2 do I feel stuck and alone. I am so use to 1 way of life now I am clueless.Does any1 have any similar experiences or suggestions?
2007-02-16 16:14:56 · 12 answers · asked by marissa w 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
People do destructive things (drugs, violence etc) because they have a black hole inside them they have to fill up with something. This is the source of your pain. You might try to cover it up or forget about it with drugs, but its only a temporary fix, and causes more pain in the long run.
You have to take a step back and find the source of your pain. (which is easier said than done). You miss the comfort of doing what you already know. But do you really want to keep finding yourself in the same situations years from now? Seek out some positivity. If you cant find it, create it. Do it in your own time, you are still young. Good luck.
2007-02-16 16:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, ...someone was looking after you... this time. We all get another chance..to change. If you want to change that lifestyle you must change your friends ..and the places you frequented. There are ever so many people your age doing something more positive with their lives. Perhaps you could do volunteer work, go to college, night school, find a different job, etc. Seek out places where you could meet people your age and stay away from the party people and that lifestyle before it causes the death of you and perhaps others. If you go to Alcoholics Anonymous you may find people your age trying to turn their lives around too for the same reasons. But remember many members are in the learning process too. You go there for you. Get a sponsor of the same sex that has done the 12 steps,and beware of the 13 steppers. (people interested in your body not your well being). Remember it's a life and death program , and you can get some good orderly direction from the proper people there. A call to their local office will give you more info and you could have a lady meet with you to discuss the above. A.A. is not about drinking, it's about living. Good Luck !
2007-02-17 00:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by goddess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See heres the delima , while I can admire you for givng up drinking because it really isnt the best thing in the world for you. What people need to learn is constraint! There is absolutly nothing wrong with a drink now and again, its drinking to get drunk thats the problem. What you need to work on is constraint. Now there are good places to meet people who are not just drinkers especially since you are on campus. If you have any kind of talent in a subject you can always sign up to help others study, theres all kinds of clubs on campus, our school has a student center that people just go and hang out at they have movies,games, and just different activities going on all the time.
I dont know you so I can not judge you but if your having a problem with drinking too much it might be because you are trying to cope with something. Maybe you also need to take a serious look at your live, especially if you have had a "lot of bad experiments". You should think about getting your self out of situations that are not working for you. I know thats easier said than done but if it means saying good bye to a certian person then so be it, or if it anything else that your capiable of doing you do it no matter what.
A lot of people are saying church is the way to go, and maybe it is for you, but regardless life is about balance and making good choices and you can do that. Your on campus so theres literaly thousands of people with in walking distance of you. You just need to seek out some of those people on campus, get rid of the things that bother you, if you do want a drink learn that one or two is more than enough for the week, and deffintally dont drink and drive theres a reason why its against the law!
2007-02-17 00:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I most whole heartedly say Church is a good place to try and make friends. I met my wife thru church and who knows you might meet that mr right for you with God's help. Here is a link below for you to check out some churches in your area. All you have to do is put in your zip code. One might have a singles group , or a college age group.
God Bless and I hope this helps,
Chris
http://www.churchzip.com
2007-02-17 00:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Chris_His_Servant_7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30,Manager for pvt Co. I've seen incredible changes by 3 friends and 11 guys in my environment.(All of them refers Islamic Religion as a solution)
All Qsn that you have, Islamic Religion have proven answer.so go to the nearest Mosque, tell your problem, you'll get the best sol'n
ever you had before.
Good Luck !!!
2007-02-17 02:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Abdulwasi M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your college has a christian student organization, I would check that out. The people that you are meeting at those parties arent the people you should be striving to be with anyway. If you survived that wreck, God obviously has a plan for your life, try to find out what it is.
2007-02-17 00:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jay B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try outside activities like parks for frisbee golf, riding a bike, going to play pool, having dinner parties, joining a book club, going swimming, volunteering, you may not meet as many "COOL" people as you would partying but you will meet more genuine people and chances are you wont feel pressured to be a beer guzzling party chick you can just be a college student with real hobbies.
2007-02-17 01:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still go to parties with your friends just don't drink, you can tell them due to the accident your life is worth more to you than to drink, offer to be the driver home that way they wont pressure you to drink.
2007-02-17 00:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you find a new apartment. Sometimes you don't want to live with the people you generally hang out with. That's a rule of thumb. You can check out Cribs4Students.com to find a new apartment/room. They allow you to search and post for free. You really have nothing to lose. Best of luck with everything.
http://www.cribs4students.com
2007-02-17 09:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by Nygma N 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...first... Alcohol is going to kill you... and you'll sadly kill someone else while your "enjoying" yourself...(till the next day....of the rest of your life)... I'm not trying to beat you up, just tell'n it like it is....
...Fun is where and how you make it... fun is the movies... fun is a popular Theme-park... fun is the beach... offer yourself to be the "D.D." (desingDriver)... watch the idiots make fools of themselves... now that's fun !!!!! get a "quality" date !!! make your own fun....Ooooo :o) and if you continue to get consumed by the monster in the bottle...GET HELP... save your life...
2007-02-17 00:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋