Hey! I need some like,serious help. Jerry Springer help! My son,who is 2 years old is always telling me he hates me,and he is always swearing. Really,the truth is I do not love him. Would I ever tell him that,psh no! I have no idea why he acts so badly. Can anybody give me some advice?
2007-02-16 15:27:42 · 20 answers · asked by EhhEsthetic 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Heeyyy sheeesh don't hate me.
His Mom taught him this stuff.
I do not swear around my kids,I always tell them I love them and how much they mean to me. My daughter is a perfect angel,her Mom is GREAT,Dylans mom is a grrr shes a whore,and shes mean to him and she hits him,and she tells him she hates him,and she swears alot in front of him.
Gaaawwwddd.
2007-02-16 15:39:10 · update #1
UUUUUUUUGHHHHHHHH WHAT THE HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-16 16:26:28 · update #2
He is negative attention seeking..
He is most likely immitating your behavior -bad behavior- to get your attention..
Do him a favor and get him around people who love him.. he needs positive energy..
2007-02-16 15:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by TheyCallMeMom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible that you feel that way. He is acting out because he can senses that you don't love him. You need therapy, and if things don't change your child will as well. You should figure out the reason you feel like you don't love your child. The child should be with someone who loves him. As far as swearing and telling you that he hates you. He wouldn't be saying those things if he wasn't hearing them. He will imitate what his surrounding are if that is what he is being brought up around then you can't expect much more from him. It is never too late to start doing the right thing. You should speak with your wife about not cursing in front of the child. You should also take in to account that your son is 2. Some children go through spells at that age it is called Terrible Two's. My son just turned 3 while he acts up from time to time I would never in a million years say that I don't love him. You should get some family counseling and perhaps speak to his pediatrician.. Maybe they might have some helpful tips for you. I didn't mean to sound harsh but if things aren't changed quickly then it will never get any better only worse. You have your child to think about....
2007-02-17 01:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by gasnshngrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him give him up for adoption to someone who will.
He must have heard hate and swearing from someone. blame the one who says it in front of him. If it's you, you had it coming. Stop doing it yourself and then you might have some luck with him. Who ever it is they need to stop or be out of the picture, otherwise it's going to be a hard road ahead. End it now before he is completely corrupted. At age five all values are practicly set good or bad. He needs help from someone who cares.
2007-02-16 23:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a few pointers and insights as to your toddler.
1-cussing and temper tantrums along with the I hate you are learned behaviors kids are quick and they pick up on the shock power of these actions and as long as you react and he gets attention even if its negative well attentions attentions. Distraction is the name of the game use cognitive thinking games and art projects..along with daily outings to the park and bath time fun try to limit the TV to educational things like animal shows excl.
2- remember thet he is 2 and they do call it the terrible 2s for a reason.all kids no madder what age have to try both the good and bad of every situation to choose where they will stand.
3-No one relay hates their child -just their actions and it sounds like you are resenting him a bit try getting some you time and getting him accustomed to paling with new friends .get together with parents that you meet at the park excl. and trade off baby setting or just all of you hanging out together .the moor people and kids your both around the separation when school/work rolls around will be easier on you both.--good luck!!!!
2007-02-16 23:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by alaskanlady49 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, kids are intuitive (I bet you will have to look that word up) you don't have to tell him you don't love him for him to know that you don't. He would probably be better off if you just went away and let him grow up without your disdain (that word too). Slap a condom on in the future and don't torture an innocent child with your adolescent BS!
2007-02-17 04:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of people out there that cannot have children and would love one with every ounce of them selves. I can't believe you could say that you don't love your own child. If you don't maybe you should consider family members or some one that would love him. If that's not possible maybe you should consider giving him up for adoption before you screw him up anymore obviously you've done quite a bit of damage already.
2007-02-16 23:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Momof_2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna guess that your son can tell that you don't love him. Your the adult! So you need to give love to get love. He's the child so he needs to get love to give love. So you need to spend time with him, stop yelling at him when he does things wrong and realize he is two. Give hugs, tickle him, play around with his toys, read to him. Basically be a parent and stop blaming your son for the choices that you made.
2007-02-16 23:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children reflect what they are accustomed too. So, maybe he is mimicking or acting out on what you're doing. Plus, if you do not love him...he's feeling it. Children are very smart and can sense your feelings!
I can't fathom the idea that there are parents out there that do not love their children! If you truly feel this way than maybe you need to give the child to someone who will treat and love him better!
2007-02-16 23:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's horrible...you don't love your son because he says he hates you? he's going thru the "terrible twos". have you heard of those? kids will say anything to get a rise out of you at this age and if you keep answering him, it will continue. also, cut out the cuss words cuz he probably learned them from you! just because he says he hates you and cusses at you is not a reason to hate your son...there is no reason you should ever hate your child! maybe it is you who needs the help and not him...consider that!
2007-02-16 23:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by sweetness10301978 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call Jerry or Maury Povich. They'd help you.
Yell at his mom. Tell her that you don't like his behaviour. Maybe you should treat him better, then maybe he'll care.
2007-02-17 11:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Busta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋