Christians keeps telling me homosexuality is something we make a "choice" about. As a hetro, I've never had to "chose" at all! I've never once had to remind myself to be attracted to the opposite sex. So, for those christians who claim it's a choice, what's it like to be tempted by the same sex and what helps you personally to make the right "choice"?
2007-02-16 15:21:32 · 25 answers · asked by Laptop Jesus 2.0 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
They consider heterosexuality the default and homosexuality is a willful deviation from said default. They're wrong, of course, but that's how they can justify calling homosexuality a choice and heterosexuality not.
2007-02-16 15:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by ZER0 C00L ••AM••VT•• 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Assuming that you are not a vegan, did you make a choice to eat meat? Probably not.
There are people who do strange things. Do you think that we consciously make a decision NOT to do these things? If you don't have any piercings, does that mean that you made a decision NOT to get any? Again, probably not.
If you want to see people tempted by members of the same sex, take a trip to prison. It's no secret that there is a lot more homosexual activity inside than out. The only rational explanation is that, because of that environment, some people choose to do something that they would not normally be inclined to do.
2007-02-17 00:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by iraqisax 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Homosexuality is most definitely not a lifestyle choice! There's strong scientific evidence that that's how people are born...just like blue eyes, or being tall or, yes, even being heterosexual. That's just the way you are. I have never met a person who was like, "Yep, I just decided I'm going to go gay..."
I disagree with those who say "You may be born that way, but it's still wrong, that's not the way God intended it to be" or whatever. Why shouldn't they have a love life too? That's like saying everyone born with blue eyes can't fall in love, because God doesn't want them to...it just doesn't make sense.
2007-02-16 23:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by Hotaru 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gee, after two failed marriages I have finally made the lifestyle choice of living alone. Problem is is that I now don't have a wife to bore me to sleep. The good thing is is that her butt doesn't push me off the bed in the middle of the night. Sometimes it IS good for a man to be alone. When you are not attracted to "any" sex that is.
2007-02-16 23:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For a long long time, I liked neither men nor women, for the reason that I came to understand as "the hermit within". I am a woman and I became married because mostly I was tired of being alone, so I asked God if I could. It took Him a long time to answer my request, so I qualified that request by saying: "Make it a difficult one, Lord." And so it came to be. Sex was not the main focus of my life. I mean, I had urges, and they were women's urges, but by nature, I believe I am a strong, self-sufficient person who has weaknesses.
2007-02-16 23:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a christian, but I don't really believe that homosexuality is a lifestyle choice. Most homosexuals will tell you that they are born that way. But look at it this way. Some people are born with a tendency to be "angry," or "suicidal." That doesn't make it a good choice. We must give our flaws over to Jesus and let Him handle it. AND QUIT BEING SO HARD ON OURSELVES! Jesus knows us and accepts us. We are harder on ourselves than Jesus EVER is. We will never change if we live in constant guilt.
2007-02-16 23:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have chosen NOT to put my penis in another man's anus. And this is not because of the fecal matter. It is simply a choice I have made because I am a christian. Jesus didn't do it so I won't. We have no knowledge how Jesus felt about the female anus. I like the female anus and am often tempted by it. But the male hairy one is definitely off limits
2007-02-16 23:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Great question. I have often wondered how anyone would think someone would choose to be made fun of, shunned by family and friends, and denied the benefits that so many of us take for granted.I bet many gays spend plenty of time wishing that they were straight before finally accepting that they were born that way.
2007-02-16 23:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by thrill88 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Each person is born with a sin nature. Saying that one is born a homosexual, which in the bible is a sin against God...is like saying someone is born an adulterer, a murderer, a liar, and idolater....which are also called sins in the bible.
The sin nature in each person will manifest itself in different ways. Homsexuality is one of them. So is lying, so is cheating, so is being a pedophile.
2007-02-17 00:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I could have chosen not to get hit upside the head, and ridiculed for being bisexual. It would be nice, to choose that.
People that say it is a choice are idiots.
2007-02-16 23:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Tifferkins 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋