I am a young woman, and he is two years older, he lives 30 minutes away and i dont want him to travel all the way to my house to be dumped and i dont want to go there and do it so he has to be around me if he doesnt want to, but im not sure if it would make him feel better, if i did it on the phone or in person, What should I do? Also i dont want to hurt him.
2007-02-16 15:20:57 · 18 answers · asked by Nicole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, he has cheated on me twice and i cheated on him once when drunk
2007-02-16 15:21:52 · update #1
dump him and if you don't want to do it in person or on the phone let him down gently in an email i know it's a sucky thing to do but it doesn't seem like he cares if he cheated on you twice then what does that say about him...
2007-02-16 15:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ashli L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. First of all 'dump' is a cruel word no matter how it is sugar-coated. Just call him and tell him the truth, whatever it is. At least you will know that you did the right thing. Honesty is always the best policy, even when it is difficult. If he cares for you of course he will be hurt, but this is life. Approach the break up with kindness ... wish him the best ... then go on with your life. Good luck!
2007-02-16 23:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The door has been opened with the infidelity on both of your parts. He hurt you and you got even, drunk or not. I would call him or email, and say with the history between us I think it is time to move on. Then hang up.
2007-02-16 23:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are one of two options: One you can write a letter and ignore his calls until he receives the letter and by then he probably won't call anymore anyway.
Or two...you can start an argument with him...and say you know what... "This just isin't working out!' hurry up and hang up and don't answer.
2007-02-16 23:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Pumpkin love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what way you do it, if this young man has feelings for you he is going to be hurt. The best way though is to be honest and don't lead him on, and don't stay with him just because you feel sorry for him.
2007-02-16 23:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why you are not supposed to let them know where you live until you are sure. Text or email and just let him know you need time right now. But if he knows where you live then he may come looking for you.
2007-02-16 23:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it over the phone and just be courteous by telling the truth. Make sure you day, I dont want to hurt you by stringing you along, therefore,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
2007-02-16 23:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by friday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him over the phone. i just dumped mine 2 weeks before vday and it still hurt his feelings but so what i was with him for 5 years and he didnt marry and my feelings was hurt. so who cares if it hurts him :)
2007-02-16 23:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is always a hard one i have so much trouble breaking up with guys i would just send him a text or an email and never speak to him again l0l but thats just me im mean =P
2007-02-16 23:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by britt b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite him to a cafe near your house then dump him, don't be a chicken just do it, he's going to get hurt in the end anyways
2007-02-16 23:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by StephC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋