Booty call or more? Please help!!!!?

Question

Is he into me or am I just a booty call? He drives 1.5 hours to come to my house, he cuddles for hours, he is really sweet and affectionate, kissing me even after we are finished doing it, always sleeps over and wants me to sleep over at his house, and we also hang out and watch TV and movies and go to Starbucks, and he emails me frequently when we are apart. He says he likes me and enjoys my company and that he really enjoys what we have. We've been seeing each other for about 3 months now. But when we talked about it a month ago he said he doesn't want to have a serious relationship, just wants to keep it casual like we've been doing. What do I do??? I find myself thinking about him almost all the time and really wanting more. Thanks for your help!!!

Answer 1

It sounds to me like you are making up reasons to convince yourself that he really cares. The bottom line is if you want more and all he wants is whats now going on then you should get rid of him and find someone who wants what you want. No need to make yourself feel bad by considering yourself a "booty call" Maybe what he's giving is all he is capable of at this time. Don't worry about whether you are just a booty call to him, worry about what it is you want and do whatever it is you have to do to attain that. love and peace!

Answer 2

now i don't know what the other guy is talking about but i don't think it is a booty call. You want to know the difference between whether it is more than a booty call and just a booty call. He says that he doesn't want a serious relationship, so ask him if it is just exclusive is he seeing anyone else then just you? If he is than maybe it is a totally different assumption, because you could just be the side dish from his other life. If he seems trust worthy and you really think that maybe it could be more than maybe you have to ask him how long are we going to play tag? If he says he doesn't want a serious relationship than keep it casual just remember the longer you stay in something that you don't feel is right the more you will hurt yourself at the end and you don't want that do you? Once it hits 6 months or a year then push him for more there are people out there though that will say they don't think that being tied down is the best thing and you will never know it into you walk right into it. Hope i could help you- email me [e-mail] for some more advice if you want any!

Answer 3

See in my book, women should not involve themselves in these types of sexual relationships until they are clear on what the relationship is, what the man feels, and where things are headed. The fact that you young ladies do this stuff backwards is always confusing to me. Why tie your emotions up and sleep with a man that just wants to "be casual." Let his butt be casual OVER THERE by himself!

The way you have things set up now, he gets all the benefits of being the boyfriend - full and compete access to your body, your bed, your time, your energy and your emotions, and you have absolutely no commitment, no ties, no nothing from this fool. Why would you do that to yourself?

You need to tell him that you want a serious relationship and aren't trying to be anybodys "friend with benefit" and that you are withdrawing from the sexual aspect of your relationship. Tell him that you don't want to feel used for sex and that it was a mistake to involve sex without having confirmation and assurance of deep feelings on either side.

Answer 4

Booty call..and don't let his sweetness fool you he could be doing the same thing with another girl don't let yourself get hurt by him or fall in love because in the end you will be hurt and tell him how you feel if he doesn't want more than don't waste your time guys come and go in a dozen you'll find the right one who will appreciate what you want

Answer 5

when i was in your position, i had to get real with myself. i sat this man down and told him this is how i feel...... let him know where you stand instead of the other way around. he cant have his cake and eat it too. you two are doing exactly what you would do in a actual relationship only you would b exclusive to each other. dont let him toy with your heart. if committment is what he doesnt want then you just f*ck him and make him leave. no hugging and all the gusshy stuff that youve been giving. what you two have going is not booty calls. he needs to make a choice and its up to you to make him stick to it.

Answer 6

I've been in the same thing. It's not what you want to hear, but I think it's a booty call. My guy just decided today to go back to his woman of 8 years because she finally gave him the time of day. I was just his fun while she didn't want him. Hurts like h$#l, but it's the way it is. Call it off while you can, it won't feel good to start off with, but save yourself a bunch of heartache and tears!! Or you can join me in a self pity party later....

Answer 7

pretty much a booty call, sound like he likes you but is looking to see it there's someone one he might like more.

Don't wait on him, if you run into another guy that really clicks go for it or you may miss a great opportunity.

Answer 8

sounds like this guy is willing to go to great lengths for a booty call. No serious relationship=BOOTY CALL

Answer 9

You aren't sure about him or you wouldn't be wondering and keep asking the same question. Play all you want if you're up for it. But keep a look-out for a decent guy that wants a girl of his own. Good luck! @8-)

Answer 10

Sounds like he might care about you to a point, but he is leaving himself open for other opportunities that may come up. He doesnt want you to get overly serious about him, instead just have fun.