my boyfriend has tried fingering me but i always stop him before he goes all the way because it hurts me.. i feel like his finger is pressuring and squeezing something down there? is it suppose to feel like that for the first time?
2007-02-16 15:09:38 · 13 answers · asked by cchehova 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love hurts.
2007-02-16 15:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by ken 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should wait until your ready for him to do that. Just like he has to wait until your body says your ready for entering. He can use a little lubrication for that also. It will help with entering and moisten you. He should also be gentle with you. He should not act like he is punching a wall or something. Women need tenderness and gentleness when moving forward with foreplay in the bedroom.
2007-02-16 15:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by michellej 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's doing something wrong if it feels that bad. Unfortunately, since men don't have vaginas, he may need some clues for you about what you want (how wide, how deep how fast, where this is placed, etc.). Not every woman is the same in this regard either.
2007-02-16 15:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will if the person doing it hasnt a clue what they are doing. and his finger isnt even in all the way?!!!!!!! somethings wrong! first of all tell him to be gentle until he knows more about you and what you like then perhaps you can start guiding him with your hands or through voicing your pleasure during the procedure.
2007-02-16 15:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
uuuuuuuh, actually NO its supposed to feel good. if something is getting "squeezed" down there hes deffinaltely NOT doing it right. Im thinking its not you, its him. why dont you try doing it to yourself so you know what feels right and how you like it, then show him.
2007-02-16 15:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by jus_a_lil_crazey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you don't have enough natural lubrication down there. You should try a water based lubricant, such as KY Jelly or Astroglide. You can also use spit, which may sound gross, but it is harmless. If you are a virgin then it could hurt, because your hymen is still intact.
2007-02-16 15:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by crazymaysie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe at first but then it gets moist and should get really wet and then start to feel good.maybe try same ky jelly before he puts his finger in next time,then see if it hurts.
2007-02-16 15:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happend the very same thing to me when me and my boyfriend first started dating. i agree that since its somewhat new that he might be doing it wrong not knowing your pleasure spots same thing happend to me. Also another thing was i was nervous and i used to tense up and if you tense up to much causes pain. If you ever try it again just take some deep breaths and try to relax remeber it's for your pleasure enjoy it.
2007-02-16 15:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by Dark_Fire_Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He prob hasn't found your "pleasure spot". Try finding it yourself and then directing him. After the first couple of times, he'll know how to do it right.
2007-02-16 15:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by khrycho17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it probably would, perhaps you are rushing things a little. Wait until you are ready.
2007-02-16 15:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a question for you.....Have you never touched yourself? If you have and it hasn't hurt, then maybe its his technique. If you haven't, then maybe you should and find out just how great it can feel!
2007-02-16 15:19:26 · answer #11 · answered by K B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋