My exBF is starting to scare me more and more.
We broke up 8 months ago.
I actually moved 100 miles to get breathing room from him. I gave into his guilt tactics and tried to be his friend. He is terribly vain and dyes his hair for high profile entertainment job.
I did it for him and althoug he has a serious new girlfriend he told me she couldnt dye his hair an dId be a great friend to help him once a month.
I did do it a couple times since moving just to shut him up.
It is a 5 hour round trip to see him.
10 days ago I had major surgery for a scar revision requiring nearly 150 stiches.
At no time did my ex show concern, instead he said my surgery would fail.
And now he has demanded that I come dye his hair.
I finally told him no I could not do that. I am recovering from surgery and am no going out anywhere socially for a few weeks.
He went ballistic & called me a selfish f-kn ***** & then told me Ill have to work to be his friend and that if I not his friend Im his ENEMY !!!
2007-02-16 15:04:47 · 10 answers · asked by lUKE13422 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I told him not to contact me anymore that he is a truly scary MF.
He then screamed I had better watch out.
Then he emailed me that Im a liar and that Im just lazy and a bad friend.
He really is freaking me out what should I do ?
2007-02-16 15:06:04 · update #1
Now he just sent me another email saying Im a witch and the daughter of a with and am evil.
OMG - He is 39 years old and this crazy !
Im 30 and think I'll only date normal guys around my own age.
2007-02-16 15:07:36 · update #2
There is so much wrong here, I don't know where to start.
No,he's not too old.I would say that he isprobably mentally unbalance or at least immature. You know how you know that? Because he's dating someone who is also a bit immature.
No, he isn't stalking you. You are allowing him into your life by giving in to his demands and leting him bully you emotionally into doing what he wants you to do.
My best advice is that you stop talking to him, stop seeing him, stop even reading his emails and just simply move on with your life. The only reason he is being such a pest is because you are letting him be a pest.
2007-02-16 15:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you want him to like you.. (don't all of us want to be liked?) but you shouldn't do it at your own expense. Your taking care of yourself, which you should do. There is no reason to feel guilty...
If he is truly concerning you, please go to the police and get a restraining order. I know that a piece of paper won't protect you, but it may just scare him enough to leave you the hell alone.
You can do it! Your already on the way by your decision to move 100 miles away... Good job!
2007-02-16 15:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break off all contact from him, save any threatening emails he has sent you and if you start to see him around the area you live report it to the police.
If he's calling change your number to, he may be all talk and is looking for attention but just be on the catious side and be prepared to report it.
2007-02-16 15:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*** ya what she said, get a new hotter bf then dont forget to change your number, and email address, and any other ways he can contact you......maybe sign a restraining order or call the police if it gets serious. good luck.
2007-02-16 15:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by heyheyhey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, block his email, that's the first thing you can do, and block his phone calls. You can do both. Refuse to speak to him, refuse to meet with him, don't accept his calls, don't return his emails. But, if he keeps harrassing you, then by all means get a restraining order against him.
2007-02-16 15:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of slave were you when you were dating him???? He evidently had you under total control.
You need to change your email address, phone number and whatever else you need to do and then forget this dominating nutshell. He isn't good for you....and you......stop hanging round him!!! Good luck. Pops
2007-02-16 15:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change everything possible....phone #, name and identity....he sounds like a crazy man that he is very selfish. why cant his girl dye his hair? I would completely cut off communication with him including email and stop reading his emails......probally just change your main email address.....STAY AWAY FROM HIM!
2007-02-16 15:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by declaar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you seroius? I bet all the guys are "dyeing" to see you. hahahhahahoar
2007-02-16 15:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go farther place where he could not reach you or report him to the police for disturbing your peaceful life.
2007-02-16 15:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by zagi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a bigger boyfriend to kick is *** .............. hell leave you alone :)
2007-02-16 15:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋