How can I trace my ancestry through my dad's side if no one from that family will talk about it?

Answer 1

If you are interested in doing your genealogy, the best way to get started is to start with yourself. Write down everything you know about your parents, then keep going back until you run stuck. Most people can get back to their grandparents and maybe a set of great grandparents. At this point there are so many ways to get back further in your tree. Much of it depends on the records available. For instance, it you live in the United States, public records are only going to take you back so far. Many localities weren't required to keep records until the late 1800's or even early 1900's, and many courthouses were burned in the Civil War destroying many of the existing records that were already in place. In Europe and many other countries, records go back a lot further. Other avenues of getting information are studying old land records, wills, cemeteries, city directories, local histories and military records. Another gold mine of information is if your parents kept old letters of the family. It wasn't uncommon in the early twentieth century for women to have post card books. Some old post cards have some interesting information as well. If you are young, you may have the honor of being able to interview your grandparents for information. If you do this, I would recommend taping the conversation because often it is impossible to remember everything they said and you will have a treasure for future generations. Even though tracing your tree yourself takes a lot of time and a lot of effort, you learn so much and it is so much more worthwhile than pulling up a tree on a website and wondering where in the world the author got their information.


I am assuming your family is in the U.S. If it isn't then disregard my answer.

First, ancestry.com does have a 14 day free trial-BUT you must cancel before the end of 14 days or they will charge your credit card. Also, don't be suprised if they ask you to put your cancellation in writing and fax it to them. I have had friends tell me that they had to do it this way to cancel.

Here is a list of some of the free genealogy websites.

www.rootsweb.com -This is a good one that is free. It is run by Ancestry.com but shouldn't be confused with Ancestry.com- the pay site.

www.cyndislist.com

www.familysearch.org website for the Church of the Later Day Saints.

www.genforum.com This is a site that is full of individual message boards. You can search and post by last name, state, country, or county. This is a great one. Simply post your question on the respective board, and when people answer you will get a notification on your E-mail. I have had a LOT of success on GenForum.

I must say, however, that a good genealogy query, doesn't just say. " I need information on John Smith" Try to provide as many dates, places, and details as possible. One little thing can make the difference as to the answer you get.

a good query has

1) the persons name
2) all of the biographical information you know to date and
3) asks a specific question

The reason it is so specific is because people won't waste your time and theirs telling you what you already know. Also, by providing ALL of your known information (for example, the childrens names) it gives people alternate people to research to help arrive at your answer.

http://www.usgenweb.org/ -When you get to the main page, you can get to the state and individual locality pages by clicking on the appropriate links. Keep in mind that some towns are going to have more information than some smaller obscure towns. It all depends on what kinds of volunteers contribute information to their sites. Genealogy is very much a hobby that depends on people.

Check your LOCAL LIBRARY. Many libraries have subscriptions to Ancestry.com or hertiage quest that you can Access from home with your library card number. Heritage Quest is geared mostly toward the US records.

www.interment.net or www.findagrave.com These are cemetery sites that have grown by leaps and bounds.

http://ssdi.genealogy.rootsweb.com/cgi-b...

This is the link to the Social Security Death index. This is a very helpful resource to finding death dates of people who died in recent years (since about the 60's)

If your family immigrated to the US in the last 100-125 years you can try
www.ellisisland.org
This one is cool because you can actually have a look at the ships manifests!!

If you start your search for your ancestry, it will probably turn into an obsession. It is very addicting and it is like a big puzzle with so many benefits. You learn where your family came from, where they've been, often you can learn about family medical history. There just isn't a down side. Remember the old addage, "If you want something done right, you often have to do it your self." You are not going to just find your entire genealogy in one search. It is an ongoing puzzle. I tell people, if you can find one thing every time you are searching, you are doing GREAT. If you find any more than that at any given time you are LUCKY!! Blessings.

Answer 2

Uh... I'd have to say I disagree with the comment that birth and death certificates are public records. There are restrictions on who can access them.
Your major block seems to be right at your grandparents? Frustrating, but finding the dead relatives can be easier than the living ones. Hard to say what your dads age is, but is it likely that your grandparents are dead? My FIRST stop would be the social security death index.. if not sure of exact name, try using the advanced search and filter the name by state, or even county, if you have a clue on that. If you can locate them... now you have a date and place, and can try to obtain an obituary.
Census records up through 1930 are "open"... more recent ones are limited, for privacy concerns. IF your father was born prior to 1930, and you know where, that is your starting point to look at the census and find him with his parents.
I personally have found that it is VERY common for persons who were children during the Depression years, to be estranged from family. It was a horrible time for many, and children were sometimes given for adoption, or raised by relatives. Other times there are scandals or feuds, maybe illegitimacies, families with alcohol problems, etc. Or dad left mom, and they have never forgiven this.
I always 'use' genealogy as a means for healing and tolerance, when it is in my power to do so.
The tip I give for this, is respect and understanding. At the same time, if possible, emphasise that you would like to know about the more distant ancestors... not cause more "hurt". Once you get into the 1800's, many old emotions are buried with the dead. Not always!! I worked finding the descendents of the "murderers" from a event in the 1870's, and actually made mutual contact with her, and a desc. from the victim. That one was a bit mind blowing... both were very cordial, and exchanged what both sides knew.
If nothing else, have a private talk with your mom, who may be able to give you discreet information, even if just a name and place to start with.
One more location is www.cyndislist.com, and look for a beginner's 'how to' section. You may come up with other ideas.,

Answer 3

Why don't you try the genealogical records from us, the Mormons? (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints). We have a very large collection of genealogical records from around the world. Most of the records are in microfilm, and I think everybody, even non-members, can use it.

Go to the nearest Latter-day Saint (or Mormon) meetinghouse from where you live and ask about the Family History Consultant/s from anybody there. They'll surely be glad to help you out. I tell you, searching for the names of your ancestors is really exciting!

That aside, try the following websites:
www.famliysearch.org
www.ancestry.com

Family Search provides information submitted by those who have already done the searching. Who knows, somebody might have already looked up the names you're looking for! I forgot what exactly Ancestry.com has, but as far as I remember, it provides information of people from selected countries.
Both of these websites are OK, but I still strongly suggest that you ask the Family History Consultant about the microfilms, since they can provide you valid primary data.

Good luck in your search and I'd like to hear what happens! (if that's ok) :)

Answer 4

Who can research genealogy like burning a candle at two ends Start with what you know and work back or research your surname and it origin and gather as more info as you can and work forward. Find out where your particular ethnic group settled. Early Germans,Alsatians,(French) and Swiss in Pennsylvania(1700-1820). Later Germans and Scandinavians in the upper Midwest., etc.

Answer 5

Get a hold of a mormon and ask them about geniology. They would be more than willing to answer any questions!

Answer 6

It sounds to me like you should be worrying more about your family dynamic than working on a family tree.

Answer 7

Public records....start with census, birth and death certificates, property records & tax records...good luck