i have trouble saying i love you. I have very strong feelings for this guy and i really think im in love with him and hes said i love you to me on IM and i kind of felt awkward saying i love you even though i really did. I eventually said it but is it possible that i love him but just have a problem showing/saying it?
2007-02-16 14:42:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have no problem saying it to people i dont really love. or when i dont mean it. or just saying it casually.
2007-02-16 14:45:18 · update #1
i said it back. and i know i meant it, but i just fell awkward saying it!
i felt it before he said it too i just didnt want to say it because of the awkwardness of it all.
and he has said it to my face i was entering the house as he said it and didnt react, he though i didnt hear him.
2007-02-16 14:59:09 · update #2
Talk to him and tell him
2007-02-16 14:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that you have a problem saying that you love him because you "think" you might "really" love him.
So you have no problem saying to people that you don't really love. This is bothering you so much because you like him so much that you "think" it could be love, but are scared to say something that may ruin the relationship.
You don't have a problem showing love, you just don't know how too yet.
The thing is, the two of you have not said it face to face; So technically, you have not truly said that you love one another.
Saying "I love you" on im is just the same as asking someone to marry you through email.
Tell him through "im" that you need to talk to him. Tell him what I said. That way, after your conversation, when you say "I love you" You will know what it really means.
2007-02-16 22:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a similar prob. this guy i guess i kinda liked said I LUV U on IM before logging out and i was thrown off since i barely knew him. i sed "luv ya" (innocent and friendly). It worked. yay. wellmaybe thats the same thing with u and this guy. u probably love him truely and he does luv u truely as well, but ur probably just a little intimidated or scared of the thought of being totally commited and u might be scared of what those three words actually mean. u might be scared cuz u think that its moving too fast or maybe u just aren't 150% sure. Before saying it, make sure you are 150% sure. To the fullest. If you say I LOVE YOU, that puts a kind of awkwardness on your what seems to be a great relationship. if u dont wanna let him hanging there on IM after he says I LUV U , be honest with him and tell him u are not sure but u think you luv him and jsut dont know if you shud say it until you are completely positive you are 150% fine with saying those 3 words. If he loves you truely, he'll understand, yeah i know- - cheesy, but it's true! Good luck!!!
2007-02-16 22:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by LuvSik13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the same way. in my case i think it stems from the fact that my family didnt raise me to say it. it was more like an automatic assumption type deal. so until i had a real love in my life i realized i couldnt say it no matter how many times he said it to me and i know i felt it. now im a mother and i make sure that i tell my children i love them and instill in them to be the same but as for my outside family i still feel funny saying it even though i love them. i dont think there is anything wrong with it that you cant say it and feel comfortable. just try to make a habit of saying it from now on until it becomes a natural thing. also i suggest talking this over with your boyfriend so he isnt offended because lack of communication and understanding destroy relationships all the time.
2007-02-16 22:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be a problem now however it eventually could be. Sometimes not being able to say I love is because of an insecurity or uneasiness you feel around him. It wont be a problem if he truly loves you and you show him through actions i.e. loyalty displays of affection, that you feel strongly for him. Over time you should be able to say those words to him if they are true, but maybe you are not really sure of it yet. Try talking to him about it and you may be able to confront this problem or at least it should help you find insight to how you really do feel about this guy.
2007-02-16 22:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ana Yafl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that term gets tossed around like a tasty salad, I think that your probably more affectionate in other ways, besides verbally saying that you love him. Actions Speak louder than words, and when the time comes, you will probably feel more comfortable with saying it. Doesnt mean that you dont love him now.
2007-02-16 22:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Romeo_Alpha X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you afraid of love and/or committment? That issue could require some personal counseling for you. If he has expressed love for you verbally, he probably does have strong feelings for you because men do not ordinarily profess love for women they do not care for unless she is giving the man sex. If he is loving you and you are not in a sexual relationship, you need to search yourself for answers so you will be prepared to answer his marriage proposal. That could come very soon. Do not hesitate to share your true feelings with the one you love.
2007-02-16 22:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm did you hear the words I love you, when you were growing up? Some people feel the love, but do have a hard time saying the words. I would talk to your BF and tell him how you feel. good luck
2007-02-16 22:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you grew up, did anyone ever tell you they loved you? Sometimes this carries forward to our adult lives. As long as you recognize it, then you can get past it.
Practice saying it in the mirror. If you really love this person, eventually it will become impossible to NOT say it.
2007-02-16 22:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say it until you are ready to say it. The type of love you are referring, generally I consider "In love with", not loving pizza or movies, or Mr. Right-now. Perhaps you are hoping for that one perfect and special lover relationship. When it is there, you won't have a problem saying "I'm in love with you." and meaning it. Before that, love him and pizza on the same level. LOL
2007-02-16 22:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u may hav commitment issues or ur afraid of giving ur heart to him out of fear that u'll get ur heart broken. showing u love him and telling him are very different things indeed. but it's ok to hav that feeling even though u feel that way. as long as u say it when you really mean it. you'll get used to saying it when u know it's right sooner or later.
2007-02-16 22:49:11 · answer #11 · answered by evanescent_eclipse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋