I'm a truck driver and i work a lot of hours.I go to have a massage every now and then to relax myself. One time i went to have a massage in this newly opened place not far from where i work. The Masseuse told me that i'm her type & offered some "Extra Service" free of charge. Knowing that I'm a bachelor, No GF and No children, i said what the heck...and WE did it. She gave me a kiss & a hug; told me that she really enjoyed it and i gave her a tip, said goodbye and then i went home.Right after that when i got home...suddenly i felt really guilty to what i did to the attendant but i constantly remembered that SHE offered the "Service". Now I'm torn & confused because i felt that i just explioted A human being even though she offered & agreed. Was i wrong to take her offer?
2007-02-16 14:41:04 · 14 answers · asked by joel750 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, your fine. If anything..she exploited YOU. You were a customer and she was an employee..she was supposed to serve you but took it to an extent that you're 'not supposed' to do. But Since the sex was on a mutual agreement, then you're both fine . Maybe you shouldn't have tipped her for it though..it kind of makes it seem like prostitution. Other than that, you don't need to feel guilty. Maybe next time just take her to a hotel or your house instead of doing it in the parlor.
2007-02-16 14:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by somanyhataz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its REALLY important to separate the massage therapist /client thing from any other type of potential relationship. For everybody's sanity and protection. AMTA says wait 6 moths I think from the time the professional relationship ends before starting the other kind.
The other kind of massage parlers you mention are a whole other ball game.
If the people are roughly the same age and really like each other why not consider dating. I know of several cases in which it really worked out well. My wife's dad married his massage therapist. They are the same relifeon so that helped I think.
2007-02-16 22:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by k eric b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go do more research. Go back there and get her again and see how you feel after that. If the results are still inconclusive, go back for a third try and then average out the whole thing and see how it stacks up.
Yay you did a chick. Woopiedidoo
Only thing is she is probably very angry of some injustice done to her by a guy, and now she has AIDS and herpes and any number of things and is now determined to give all that to as many boneheaded guys as she can, just for revenge. You better check your wanger and see if there are bright red spots all over it.
2007-02-16 22:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you took advantage of her. She offered to have sex with you (I wouldn't even call it an extra service since you did not pay for it), and you agreed. I don't think that there is anything wrong with accepting her offer. If I was in the same situation, I probably would do the same thing.
2007-02-16 22:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by msi_cord 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as gratuity was involved there's no reason for guilt. Sounds like a great opportunity you had and did the right thing. If only all parlors were like that.
2007-02-16 22:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by jh361 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you see her tell her you fell guilty about that and that you
a. want to get to know her better
b. want to know why she offered in the first place
or
c. that you want to be certain she wanted before you attempt it again.
your choice
2007-02-16 22:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably offers "extra service" to many of her clients.
2007-02-16 22:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by kwjt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes sex is just sex, an enjoyable experience shared by two people.
2007-02-16 22:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by FCabanski 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope the woman likes ya and i'de go back for more and im a chick. but i really dont think that you think that i think that your just writing this to brag. but yay you did a chick. woopiedidoo
2007-02-16 22:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by boo_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are a homo.
Assuming it was a "female" that gave the massage.
2007-02-16 22:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by questionmarkguy2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋