boyfriend drinking...??

Question

hi guys

my boyfriend is a great person, honestly, i dont see anything wrong with him besides the fact that he drinks alot.. he gets drunk and he just isnt himself.. he doesnt get all violent or anything but it's just not the person i know.. he doesnt do it often but he's turning 18 soon and he's excited because he says he'll be going to pubs and clubs more often and obviously drinking there too.. i really care about him and i think he has to much more potential if he focused on other things as well rather than drinking.. he doesnt think he's going to do well in school ( i know he can, and so do his friends) and he says he'd rather just enjoy life and by doing that he'll just go out and drink..

he knows i dont like it but he says its nothing and that he's fine. i'd like to beleive him on that but i can't help but still worry.. i want him to stop or at least cut down and see what he can really do rather than waste his time wasting himself..

please help

Answer 1

Ditch him and find somebody else

Answer 2

He says it's nothing and probably said that it's not going to be a problem. Truth is, he's lying, he's already got himself problems and they will only stack up more and more if he doesn't stop. And he probably won't. Drunks are like that, sorry to say. If he keeps drinking himself crazy to the point he's never himself and will eventually become more violent, there's no point still being with him. He'll only hurt you and those around you over time and will bring you down.

Answer 3

I'm sorry. I feel your worry, been there. But, honestly, he will NOT change unless HE wants to. Or unless he hits bottom. I know that you want him to change, but that's really not enough. You know the saying, "if you love them enough, let them go" & "If they come back, they are yours forever"? That's what you are going to end up doing. He's got to get better on his own. You could possibly try an intervention. Good Luck. Don't get your heart broken.

Answer 4

boy, you are barking up the wrong tree with this one!!!
if he is only 17 and drinking this much now. trust me this boy IS going to grow up to be an alcoholic!!
distance yourself or pay the price of being with a drunk!!!
you can not get him to cut back or quit. and he doesn't seem to want to.
he is a looser in the making.
dump this guy before it's too late!!!

Answer 5

One word. Conseling. You cant stop a rabbit from eating a carrot. Just like you cant stop a acholic from drinking. He needs help. If your a true girlfriend, you will help him. He is going to ruin his life if you dont. http://www.addictioncareoptions.com/ you help him. Or else...he could end up dead,a bum, homeless diging in trash, etc.


HELP HIM! HIS LIFE IS IN YOUR HANDS.
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Answer 6

girl it so hard. but say that u r going 2 leave him cuz if he cared bout hed stop.
tell him u do not want 2 see him die like this! just tell him if only if u loved me.


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Answer 7

well my b/f use to drink before we were a couple n he told me that it would take a serious girl who really cared about him to change n one i became dat gurl i told him that i didnt like it n dat he worried me when he did it even if it wasnt much...n he has...h is changin n not for me but gor him...

Answer 8

It's a phase that he'll outgrow. He's young and he'll get past being wild.

Answer 9

Only your boyfriend can help himself. He won't change unless he wants to. Your wasting your time if you think you can help him. Please find someone who is worthy of your love. No one can love someone else until they love them self.

Answer 10

You can't change someone else, no matter how much you may want to. Do what's best for you, leave.