My grandfather was given 2 weeks to live 4 days ago. I have been grieving for him ever since. Is it ok too begin grieving? I also live 650 miles away from him and cant afford to go home for his funeral.
2007-02-16 14:27:17 · 16 answers · asked by ♥skiperdee1979♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I emailed My Parents a Letter for Him. They Will Read It to Him Tomorrow.
2007-02-16 17:08:47 · update #1
It's perfectly okay to feel the way you are feeling. You are preparing yourself for the inevitable. It's realistic to feel upset and express your feelings of sadness and loss. I had a family member with senile dementia. I grieved her long before she died, she was not herself and it was a great loss to all of us long before she ever passed.
I'm so sorry you cannot afford to go home for the funeral. Perhaps a sweet friend or relative would be willing to buy you a plane ticket to get home after all.
There is no "right way" to grieve so please do what you need to do in order to make your way through this process. Take care.
2007-02-16 14:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't feel bad because you are grieving. For all intents and purposes, the Grandfather you grew up and knew is already gone. Grieving is a very personal thing, some people keep everything inside, others cry and it's over but I think most people take a long time to really accept the loss of someone they love. Missing someone is honestly the ultimate compliment.
2007-02-16 14:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to grieve about someone that is going to pass to the other side. Just try not to let it consume you. Also, look around and check around and see if a relative or someone is going to the funeral. Perhaps you could borrow the money to go. It wouldn't be that expensive. I don't know your situation but put some thought into it. Good luck. Pops
2007-02-16 14:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Pops 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves in a different way. You are doing fine. It's good to recognize that you will miss him. Many people grieve a long time before a loved one actually dies. And that's o.k. It's not hurting anyone. You are growing through the pain.
It's always better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.
2007-02-16 14:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's okay for you to grieve for someone before they pass. I know that before my great grandma passed away, I grieved for her everyday until the day she passed. I still grieve for her. If you can't go to his funeral send your family a card. It's inexpensive and it will mean a lot to them to know that you are thinking about them. Everyone has their own way to grieve for a loss, weather it be an aunt, uncle, grandpa, grandma, mom, dad, son, daughter.
2007-02-16 15:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely ok to begin grieving. Of course you are going to feel sad after hearing this. Be gentle and let yourself feel these feelings. There is no set time frame for feelings. You must really love him. I hope you have family or friends who you can talk to about him and how you feel. I am sorry to hear about your grandfather.
2007-02-16 14:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by tennis 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey I feel so sorry for you. It is OK to grieve. You are losing someone you love. It is hard. Grieving has many stages. If you can write a letter and mail it. They can read it to him if he cant read it. You have my sympathy.
2007-02-16 16:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by momof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is. My mother has been gone four years now and still there are moments I wish I could hear her voice just one more time. Just try to hold in your heart those sweet funny memories of him, share them with your friends and children and by that your dear grandfather will live forever.
2007-02-16 14:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by grandma ellen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's ok. You know he's dying and that hurts. Try to visit him before he passes away, borrow some money from some friends, you'll feel better after he dies.
2007-02-17 03:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by jondavesnowy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. absolutely. u cant stop your body, heart and mind to stop feeling what theyre feeling. death is natural, no matter how sad it is or terrible. but im not gonna tell u to be happy and stuff wen it probably sucks so much. you should try to contact him, eventhough it's sad, and tell him wat he means to you. it will mean a lot...let his last memory of you be the greatest. =) and im not trying to get points, im trying to help you, honest to god, because eventhough, i have nvr coped with the passing away of a family member. but since it is happening to you, u shud try to let it shape u into a better person, if at all possible. may god bless you. <3
2007-02-16 14:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by LuvSik13 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋