Mom's boyfriend abuses us!?

Question

ok so my mom got divorced and my dad's in prison for sexually abusing me and my twin. Now we live with our mom and her boyfriend and things get bad here. He hits us and he's made me bleed and gave my twin bruises. I once talked to my mom about him and I feel as though she would rather be with him than us, she's told us herself that she can't leave becaues she'll be lonely. She'd rather see us get hurt. What should I do? I can't leave my mom, too heart broken and I can't run away like I've thought about, he'll hurt us if we do. I can't stand home anymore. I've cut myself and overdoced because I feel nothing is worth it anymore. He won't even let us talk to our big sister whom has cutting, depression problems.... she doesn't live with us and I love her so much, I can't stand even imagining being without her. Anyway, my question is, what should we do? I feel stuck... I don't want mom to hate us again and ignore us (She did once, when she got kicked out of her last boyfriend's house).

Oh and her boyfriend is friends with the police and this county that I live in won't do anything, lets just say... you have to be almost dead for them to do anything.

Answer 1

Oh my Gosh! I feel so bad for you! I know how it feels to have a mom who seems to care more about her boyfriend than you, b/c mine seems to do that sometimes. I can't imagine what you're going through, though. Listen, I know that you don't want your mom hurting, but you have to think about yourself. If this situation is putting you in danger, and making you feel like life isn't worth living, you need to get help from someone outside your home. If you have a close family member, like an aunt or something, who lives close by, try asking them to let you and your sis live with them for awhile. Please don't hurt yourself by cutting yourself or doing drugs. I don't know you, but I wish I did, because I want to help you so much. Please, Please, ask someone for help. Life is worth living, even though it may not seem like it right now. I don't know if you believe in God or not, but if you don't, let me tell you, he is real. He has helped me through a lot of hard times, especially since my dad died. He can help you too, if you pray to Him. He loves you, and he can make your life worth living.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel. I'm 30 now, but I have been there. My step-dad was very abusive and my sister and my 2 brothers delt w/ this for 10 years. My mother said the same thing.. She didn';t want to be by herself. The only advice I can give you is to possibly go stay w/ a relative, if you can't do that then call social services. They will help you. I would try your hardest to get out w/ a relative. Please.. If you can't then I really don't know what to say. My life is so much better now.. There is definitly sunny skys ahead of you. Please don't lose hope. You are going through this to make you stronger. I truly believe this. Also, you need to realize that you are in control, so tell yourself that you need to stop cutting. Good luck!

Answer 3

I feel so bad for all the things you have been through. Do you have anyone you can talk to about this you can trust, like another relative or school counselor or something? You don't deserve to be treated that way. And your mother not wanting to be lonely is NOT a good enough reason to let her kids be abused. That is very selfish. You need to tell someone and let her be mad if she wants to, but it needs to be stopped. I know it may feel like you are taking a big risk but it is something you need to do, for the sake of your family. Your whole family is caught in a cycle of abuse and it sounds like you could be the one to end it for good.

Please be strong and reach out to someone who can help you, it doesn't sound like things will get any better if you don't.

Answer 4

Talk to your teachers, counselors, principals, cops, anyone in a position of authority. If this dirt bag really cared about your mom he would love you as if you were his own kids, I know my girlfriend has 2 daughters that live with us and love them both like they were my own. No matter what nobody has the right to hurt you, or make you want to hurt yourself. You may have to spend some time apart from your mom, but you have to make sure you are safe and sane first. If you need someone to talk to e-mail me at [e-mail]. Be safe and strong. Get help

Answer 5

Go to a school counselor and ask for advise. You do not want to ask strangers who may give you the wrong advise and cause you more problems. Not to mention that sometimes some people of here write nasty answers. If you can not wait until Monday look on the websites I listed for hot-line numbers. If you feel your life is in immediate danger call 911. Also it never hurts to ask God for some help. Good luck!

Answer 6

Oh my gosh, i feel so bad for you. You really are stuck. I know it would be difficult if I were in your circumstance to do any of what I am about to tell you, but I will try to help. Tell your mom that you don't don't know what to do, and be firm with her. Also, ask her if she really wants the kind of man who beats her children. Tell her she needs standards. As hard as this may be for you, you may also want to tell someone else, and, honestly, call the police if you have to. I know this is really hard, but you would rather lose your mother to jail then your life to drugs and cutting, right? I hope I could help. I fell for you.

Answer 7

Your Mom has a very big problem. She really needs help. And so do you. You need to go to your closest Police Dept. or see a counselor at school. You need to get help. And so does your Mom. Your Mom will never hate you. If she did or will then she is really messed up and needs counseling. You may need to get counseling to help you through everything.

Answer 8

Talk to your teacher or another adult family member. Like your Grandma, Aunt or Uncle. I know you don't want to hurt your Mom but, you and your twin are being abused.

Answer 9

OMG i don't know how you can deal with this....?
seek for help!!!
tell your mum she can do better there is plenty men out there that are cool
and tell the police report that ***** he should be in prison.....
and i got a feeling your bullshit'ing
LOL LOL LOL

Answer 10

tell ur mom she needs to move out of this comminuty and find someone else is shes worried about being lonley and if that dosnt work move in witha friend or grandparents.