Example:
I am seventeen years old. I have been bestfriends with this one girl for 3 years. But her mom never really let us hang out until this past summer. We live on the same block. At 6 o'clock my best friend calls me up and tells me her mom gave her permission and if I'll come over and watch a movie. I went. By the time the movie was over, it was 7:30. Then we went online and 8 PM her mom came in and told me "It's time for us to go to bed and time for you to leave" The thing is her daughter stays in my house all the time. My mom never told her anything like this EVER. When she is over, we always ask if she wants anything to eat and drink and always bring something because she may be shy and not ask. But one of the few times in 3 years I ever went to her house this happens!! Get this, whenever I went (I've only been to her house 3 times including this time) they never ask me if I want anything either.
2007-02-16 13:44:12 · 20 answers · asked by Mara D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's kinda rude. I mean, you guys are being really nice by offering her stuff, while she and her Mom doesn't. Since you never really went to her house a lot of times, and she would go to your house sometimes, she should treat you the same way coz that's kinda unfair.
BTW, if she's probably around 17...y does she have an 8 pm bedtime. no offense to anyone.
2007-02-16 13:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has different household rules, which is why the mother told you when it was time for you to leave. As far as not asking you if you want anything, that is definitely being a poor host, but some people aren't very good at having guests.
The time thing though isn't about being rude. We have set times that guests need to leave, and I will tell my son's friends when that is as a reminder. I will also remind them when they have to go home if their own parents have specific times for them to be headed home.
Uninviting you would be more like someone calling you up and asking you over and then calling you back and asking you not to come over. Which again can happen when you are teenagers. Sometimes a teenager will invite someone, and the parents pull rank because they made other plans. Don't stress this one.
2007-02-16 21:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her mother just has different house rules, and is probably the type that does not enjoy company.
It is very rude that they never offer you any drinks - but telling you to go home is understandable. If the mother has to get up early 8 o'clock is probably her unwinding time, and company interferes with that.
People have every right to ask a guest to leave when they want the guests gone! Remember, it was not the friend's mother that spends time at your house, it was your friend.
2007-02-16 21:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound normal, but then again it may be the rules of the house, it may be very embarrassing for your friend so just ask her what are the rules of the house when mom is there and ask why then just go with the flow she may appriciate being at your house because she has more freedom. Talk more it helps. Take care Heather
2007-02-16 21:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't really think that you were uninvited, it was just time for you to go home.
It's true that your friends mom doesn't seem very hospitable and a little cold... but maybe there is a reason for that.
I think you just need to realize that everyone is different and don't be so sensitive. Just go with the flow of things... and if her mom really is just a heinous bi**h then you should just be grateful that your mom is not like that!
Way to be a very good hostess!!
2007-02-16 21:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by Tiff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, please realize that this incident had absolutely nothing to do with you. They would have treated Mother Theresa that way. Believe me and realize it.
Their behavior was not so good. Do Not let it hurt your feelings at all. They acted that way because of their own lives/stress it has nothing to do with you.
Parents have very stressful lives sometimes.
Please don't think I'm nuts but the best thing you can do is pray for your friend and her family. Pray on your knees asking for everything you would want... security, good grades, health be given to them. (You don't even have to mean it!) Just pray for them everyday and in two weeks you will see an astounding difference in your relationship with them...(don't tell them your secret weapon)
It really works.... it changes the universe. It's amazing.
I hope you pray for your friend..... this kind of atmosphere is probably why she hasn't had you over more often.
God Bless.
2007-02-16 21:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by Brandysmom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah its rude but if its bothering you (which it obviously is) get to the bottom of it. ask your friend if her mom has something against you or something. but remember, this is not your friends fault. also, don't complain about it to your other friends cause if anything, your gonna make your best friend pissed off from talking crap about her mom behind her back. for the time being, stay away from the mom.
Maybe you might consider other people other than yourself. Has any other person had the same problem or are they A-ok? ask around but not with spite.
2007-02-16 21:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by golden gate chick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gesture of a Guest vary from man to man. Its only society which teaches a person to respect a Guest invited or uninvited as Guest is next to God. So bear with it as this is their culture.
2007-02-16 21:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by P S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some family just have different living standard and do things different from your so you might have to just ask when you want something at their house. Don't hold that against your friend.
2007-02-16 21:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by msredbonel1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They obviously think they are better than your family for some reason.
Whatever you do, don't take it out on your friend. She probably doesn't like it either.
And it's not HER house. It's her MOM's house!
2007-02-16 21:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋