I don't know what to do I'll just give you a summary and maybe you can help. one of my close friends has liked this guy for ten months. In the beginning my friends and I thought it was a normal girly obsession. It got worse. She was at a party when they first met. They were dared to kiss eachother and they really hit it off. They started to hang out and eventually worked there way up to officially being bf and gf. They lasted 2 WEEKS! The abuse began right then and there. He became extremley controlling. All of a sudden while at a dance he freaked out because she was sharing a soda with some friends. He called her a slut and a b-i-t-c-h and he said he hated her. She was still "in love" so she begged for forgiveness. He took her back "as a friend" and she followed him everywhere. She recently wanted to break it off and he screamed at her and got extremely mad. He calls me and all her other friends fat losers and says we r ugly. She has a list of rules he gave her that she has to obey
2007-02-16 13:36:27 · 5 answers · asked by .j,kjhgd,jghf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please help me! I don't know what to do anymore. I want to be her friend but her obsession with this abusive guy is killing me! She doesn't even stick up for her friends... I don't know if I should end the friendship, if i should intervene, or if i should beat the shitzu out of her "friend". This kid has told her he thinks she is an ugly S.O.B. and that he deserves better. I need some advice...
2007-02-16 13:38:49 · update #1
J,
Females in abusive relationships are so stuck they cannot separate emotion from reality. Any and all attempts to lead this horse to water will fail.
Her dysfunction seeks out and grabs others to join "the fun". You being one of them.
Your good energy, time , and emotion are being taken for granted, stepped on, spit at, and wasted.
Take your knowledge, and good will and run away from this situation, fast.
2007-02-24 13:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by cadet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't ignore this, you have to talk to her about it. If she doesn't listen to you, get your other friends involved, let her know you guys will back her up. If that still doesn't work, ask your parents to help you. Let her know it's only going to get worse and that she deserves better.
2007-02-24 13:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give up on her.. she will realize what day when he beats the hell out of her what he can do.. just try to get her alone and talk some since into her.. but dont leave ur frien she will need u in the end ...
2007-02-24 15:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by bratzrus23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously need to talk some sense into your friend...if she doesnt listen to you at first just give her some room then try again, if youre too pushy theres a chance shell just stop listening to you all together, just get her away from that jerk!
2007-02-23 23:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by love, me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET HER HELP! GO TO A COUNSELOR OR SOMEBODY SHE COULD REALLY END UP GETTING HURT. TRY AND HELP HER NOT BE OBSESSED W/ HIM! IT JUST ISNT GOOD 2 BE IN A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THAT
2007-02-24 21:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by ♥hemakesmesmile♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋