I always see her flirting with about 5 other guys. When a lot of people crowd her in math class.. she either gets scared and runs away or she nervously laughs. On my first time i gave her a present, she hesitated to take it. I'm not so sure that i can get her. im also sure that she is the one i really like and no other girl can replace her. I know lots of guys that like her also. Plz give me some advice!!!!!
2007-02-16 13:30:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
on the info you gave in your question i would say that you have already set yourself up for failure... you have fallen into the trap that she is the 'only one' you like, i dont know how old you are, but i would assume you in high school, and no higher, my advice is not to purssue her like crazy but let her fully introduce herself to you, now thats not to say you avoid her, say hi, envoke conversation, but don't allow yourself to believe that your in love, your attracted to her, so pursue it, but know when to give up, or when to make the next move, giving her a gift,(what seemed like right off the bat) might have pushed her away, you might be comming on strong... if she seems timid in groups then, to gain her attention, seperate yourself from the crowd... and with out stalking her meet her in a public, but engage a 1on1 conversation... again be bold, but don't come off to strong...
peace out... good luck, and avoid traps and false signs of flurtation... seeing as you said she is...
peace...
2007-02-16 13:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by todd w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to do this would be to find out who her friends are and talk to them about her. Find out what she likes and what her interests are.
Be her friend. If you find you have alot in common, ask her out on a "group date", when a bunch of guys and girls get together for movies or skating or just hanging around the mall, she may feel less nervous.
Since you share a math class, maybe you could use the excuse of needing to compare homework or the two of you could study for a math test?
Just some suggestions.
2007-02-16 13:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's a total hottie, you better be on the same "hottie" level as her. Since all those other guys like her too, she's obviously hot, Good looking girls date good looking guys. Are you good looking enough for her? Be honest with yourself dude. Look at your competition (the 5 other guys she's usually flirting with) and figure out where you stand compared to them. Once you do that, look for something you have or can offer that they don't. If you don't have anything, you can place her in the files with Pam Anderson and Anjelina Jolie- BEAUTIFUL women you will never have.
2007-02-16 13:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Neil M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, and maybe she's gonna pick you since you're sweet for giving or offering her a gift but given that you gave her a binder. I don't think that's sweet, not unless she liked to write or anything. Don't worry, she's just one girl. There's always somebody for someone. You just need to find her. I can see that you think noone can replace her, I bet noone would. But see if she's the right girl, and I know this is gonna be hard for you but...move on if she's not. You would want the best right? Yeah. Just always be yourself when you're with her.
Hope it works out.
2007-02-16 13:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm that is tough but from my experience (as a girl lol) she maybe is scared of having a relationship how old r u two? that may help with my answer for you,but as i see you are still in school like me well maybe this girl is scared of ending up with the wrong guy , the wrong guy who may use her then dump her?
try to get her trust but not in a cruel way, be friends with her comfort her talk to her about everyday things be a friend then slowly become something more,relationships take time and by the sounds of how much you like her this could work xxx
2007-02-16 13:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by cutieloz2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is scared by attention, you have to try and be friendly first. Be sweet and nice and help her with her bag or something chivalrous like that. Give her a flower. Be a gentleman. No hitting on or flirting. She'll like that and think it's classy.
2007-02-16 13:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Skyla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this same thing b-4. If u rally like this girl don't stop trying 2 get her just b-cuz a lot of people like her. Trust me she'll come. TRUST ME!
2007-02-16 13:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by Tootie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new girl. She doesn't like you. You need to stop worshipping this one girl and realize there are billions of other chicks out there, some of whom are hot, who aren't getting all the attention. Find one who is ignored and go after her. Girls who aren't used to attention love it when they get a little.
2007-02-16 13:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question is how do you know you like her? It seems like you are basing this purely on looks, which is a mistake. If you really want to get to know her, then talk to her. It sounds like she doesn't like the attention.
If she is as beautiful as you make her sound, she may be weary of guys who pay attention to her just because of her looks. Girls want guys to like them for their personalities also....So make her see that you want to know her and that you would want to even if she was not as beautiful as she is.
Also, I would stop giving her gifts. It is awkward to receive a gift from someone you don't know well, especially of the opposite sex, and ESPECIALLY if she thinks you like her romantically.
Get to know her.
2007-02-16 13:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by tessybell83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should confront her in a private area and ask if you could spend some one and one time together. I know it sounds weird, but if you got to know each other better then you could see your true feelings for her and see if the chemistry is really there! good luck!
2007-02-16 13:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋