I Need HELP!?

Question

I want think I have Gender Identity Disorder(GID). Im a guy that wants to be woman and im 17. Please help me with how I can tell my parents this, I need there support and love. Please Help Im Really Really Depressed, thoughts of suicide. Thanks for the help.

Answer 1

First off I want you to know that you would be sadly missed if you killed yourself so please don't. I can only imagine how hard this is for you right now. I can only offer the advice to be honest with your parents and yourself. You are only 17 and therefore still young. I'm certainly not saying that you should give this time and see if it will go away..we both know it probably won't. What I am saying is that things could change in time. If you do tell your parents and they do not support your decision, it is only a matter of time before you turn 18 and are considered an adult.
If you can not tell your parents right now, find someone else....maybe a friend or another relative to talk to. Maybe a professional or your doctor. You are right that you need support in this and I hope you find the love and support that you are looking for.

Answer 2

If you have thought of suicide you need to talk with someone in person NOW!!! Nothing is worth taking your own life.

I really think you should simply talk with your parents. I know it will be hard but it has to be done. Sometimes talking with parents is hard no matter the subject, yours makes it harder still.

If you really feel you cannot talk with your parents at this time I suggest the following:
At 17 I guess that you are still in school. You could start with a trusted guidance counselor or teacher. IF that doesn't work for you try your doctor or a priest/minister/rabbi. Maybe the parent of a friend. (Notice that everyone I have mentioned is an adult.) If all else fails call the suicide hotline.

Good luck! You can have a good life, lots of people have been in your situation and they worked themselves through it. YOU CAN TOO!

Answer 3

Maybe you need first to really explore what your underlying feelings are about this "disorder". I don't believeeveryting is a this disorder, I believe it is an emotional/mental state that has a cause and can be helped by speaking to someone who can help you understand. There ARE people who have thought this way, and then through therapy, have re-focused their lives and gone on to live happily as the sex which they were born. If you think that changing genders will make you less depressed, you are probably mistaken. Think of what life will be like when you feel that everyone knows and you feel like people are staring or laughing at you. Its cruel but its a fact. I don't know if you've thought all this through. Depression cannot be cured by this. I think the depression is making you want to start over with this new identity, but really you need to deal first with the things that are making you depressed, THEN when you are mentailly perfectely healthy, you can make important decisions.

Answer 4

You pretty much have to accept You are who you are and nothing no matter what and how anybody else feels will change that. You should just tell your parents there going to love you unconditionally no matter what. Live your life to the fullest and remember You live for you what you decied and what makes YOU happy is all thats going to Matter In the end.

Answer 5

Start with something like you just said here: "I am very depressed and I need your support and love." Expect that they will be surprised, shocked, maybe angry, disbelieving. It will take time for them to accept this news. Trust them to come around. Be honest and win their trust, too.

If you've done research into therapy, surgery, whatever alternatives you might go into, tell them you've looked into these, but maybe save the details for a later conversation.

Answer 6

Your parents would rather have you reassigned as a female than dead take a step back, breath. You are who you are, you will have to accept that and so will your family and friends