I never get asked out, and my male friends have told me that they think it's because i'm intimidating and they were all intimidated by me when they first met me. I don't get it..I mean I'm shy but that is nuts, I rarely have guys speaking to me.
I'm athletic (hockey goalie both guys and girls), smart, i'm approachable and i've been told I have a great sense of humor...I'm 5'3 so I don't get it...how am I intimidating?
2007-02-16 13:26:50 · 9 answers · asked by toronto_leafs 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd like to add for future jerks, i'm not actually FAT!.......you know the ironic thing is I posted a comment related to that type of thing earlier
2007-02-16 13:33:43 · update #1
Answers from girls who've had past experiences are welcome too please! Anything to shed some light!
2007-02-16 14:37:51 · update #2
I'm not a guy, but when I was in college I was talking with some guy friends. They were saying that when they first met me and my roommate that they all decided that between the two of us, they would be more likely to go for her than for me. Now I didn't get that b/c I was smarter, nicer, and prettier. They said that's exactly it. They wouldn't go for me because I was "unapproachable." They didn't want to get rejected. Sometimes attributes will work against you (especially if you're shy). So if you're too athletic, smart, funny, pretty, whatever, a guy could get intimidated and go for something easier. So make it easy on the poor guys. Go for it and ask them out yourself (haha, like I can talk, I'd never have the guts, lol) or make it really, really, really obvious that you like a guy.
Hope this helps!
2007-02-16 13:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by claire5star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Toronto
Find a guy you are interested in and drop him a letter or note. Tell him you are interested in him and why you are. Let him know you are not bossy or a whore only competitive on the Ice. You are just tired of waiting for him to ask you out. Women make men intimidated we are not born this way. You are going after the right guys for a good relationship. I think you are picking OK You do not want a salesman that will sell you and your best friend the next night. Some guys are just shy. After you ask them out I'm sure they will warm up to you. I was that way. Good luck and you are heading in the right direction Do not settle for the Romeos This answer is because you said you are shy. If not go up to the guy you like and tell him yes you will go out with him sorry you can't remember was it this Saturday night . Best to you.
2007-02-16 21:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by Bruce M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear toronto:
Let me try to answer your question. By your description I would have to say you are well qualified and I would even further say you appear to be a pretty good catch. Now for your answer, I believe guys and girls today are perfectly happy with being in their own comfort zone. The problem is they will never achieve more than what they put in to it. Unfortunately; you already know this. But don't give up toronto there is always someone out there who is wanting more for themselves and is willing to make a few mistakes along the way just so that he or she can grow. Now that is worth waiting for wouldn't you agree. And while you are waiting work on your spelling for indimidating. smiling!
Best wishes,
2007-02-16 21:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by Fresh choice 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might very well be because of your personality. Even though you stated that you were shy (probably to the general public), once people get to know you, you open up and be yourself, it kind of startles the other guys. You may not realize it, but that might be it -- but I'm also not saying you should change your personality at all. Or maybe it's because you can over-react to certain things, though again, not exactly realize you're doing it. Ask some of your other friends, see what they say. Hope this helps...
2007-02-16 21:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Intimidating is a polite term guys use to tell you that you're fat. Sorry, but it's the truth. You're a good person, but not attractive.
2007-02-16 21:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by theangel1025 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it is your looks? Hey I wiil speak to you i guess the guys you know are jerks.They migt not want to date a hockey player.Hit me up you don't indimidate me. xx
2007-02-16 21:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to be the center of attention. Bleach your hair blonde, and just act dingy, just be your shy self don't talk much. oh yeah , giggle alot. you would be suprised how many guys find that irresitable.
2007-02-16 21:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
brass knuckles, guns, knives, and tough dad (or brothers)
2007-02-16 21:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by SUPERMAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she can benchpress more than you.
2007-02-16 21:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by ANSWER MY QUESTION!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋