2007-02-16 13:13:04 · 13 answers · asked by thehunterandtheprincess 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
its not to early dont listen to the ppl who answered before me my mother gave me a letter but if u have a very open relationship and dont think its to awkward i would just talk to him about it but my mom gave me a letter and explained it all to me and in it said that i could talk 2 her about any questions for me that worked best because if she was talking 2 be in person i wouldnt realy listsen i would just think about how embarassed i was but with ia letter i could read it in depth and understand but u should do wat ever u think is right it verrys for everyone good luck
2007-02-16 13:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by twinkletoes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't go about giving him the talk. His parent does. As a step parent this is not one of the areas that you need to deal with. But if for some reason his parent isn't able to talk to him about this then I suggest that you just sit him down and ask him if he has any questions about sex or puberty. This way you won't give him any more information than he can handle.
Also a great book on the subject is called
"Whats happening to me?", there is another book in that series that deals with just sex called "Where did I come from?". They are written for kids about your step sons age and they don't get too graphic just all the right information.
2007-02-16 13:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hes not too young. I wouldnt go into great detail about everything yet, but you might want to explain to him a few things about how babies are really made and maybe touch on masturbation (that didnt sound right...touch on masturbation lol).
Seriously, i started masturbating around age 10. I dont know if anyone cares or not. But considering-i had no clue what i was doing at the time and kinda wished i did have a older man to explain a few things to me then.
Maybe i went too far here.
2007-02-16 13:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the job of the parent, not the step parent. You should make sure you and he have an open and trusting relationship so that if he ever has any questions he will feel free to come to you.But the actual sit down "talk" should be done by his parent.
2007-02-16 13:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until they cover the basics at school, with the "health" video... permission slips will come home about that one!! Once he's seen the clinical/biological side of things, then's a good time to sit down and talk to him about the reality of things... Until he's got that basis of factual information, though, you'll just gross him out.
2007-02-16 15:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no need in talking to him, he probably knows more than you think. I'm pretty sure he learned everything he needs to know at school, just tell him about condoms and abstinence. No matter how you approach this it's gonna be more uncomfortable for him than you. good for him, my mom gave me the talk and it sucked, but i preferred her over my dad because that would have been even more uncomfortable. i say make your wife do it, you avoid the talk and your son will probably feel a little more comfortable.
2007-02-16 13:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by dave k 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is your step son. Unless his other parent is not around it is not up to you to decide when the talk happens or your right to give it. That should be left up to the parents. I know if a step mum told my kids the facts of life I would be one very angry mum. Leave it be
2007-02-16 13:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
at ten, he has probably learned much more than you will ever know from listening to his buddies...(my neighbor has a 9 year old who came over to see me a few months ago to ask about his PP...he knew I was a doctor...it seems that a girl in his class is giving the boys oral sex and she accidently sneezed and bit him...he had a large bruise...no damage....) so THE TALK may be well over due...
first off, i would ask him what he knew, and then go from there...that may be your lead in...
good luck!
2007-02-16 14:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you've been there since he was born, I definitly think this is a job for the biological mom and dad.
Not a step parent.
And, age 10 is TOOOOOOO EARLY
2007-02-16 13:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, just tell him as long as he gets straight A's on that report card, hell have a chance to get into Harvard.
So long as he is goal-driven I see no reason not to support his ambition to become a doctor.
2007-02-16 18:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋