Why are relationships so complicated???

Question

I'm only 15 and have had 2 boyfriends (1 for about a year and the other 1 I'm with right now, we've been goin out for a lil over a month). Everything starts out good but then shortly after things start going bad :( I consider myself a pretty good girlfriend, I've never cheated or anything like that, I'm a sweet person, and I'm always the 1 that tries to see it their way and make it better. I can't figure out what goes wrong. My ex hates me for some strange reason. We broke up because the school year was over and we were going to go to different schools next year so we thought that'd be the best thing to do. I tried calling over the summer 2 see how he was doin but he never answered, he hates me now lol. Right now I'm trying my hardest to make this work with my current boyfriend. We've been having a hard time communicating lately but i know we can work it out. So...my question is why is love so complicated? If two ppl love n care about each other why is it so hard to simply stay togethe

Answer 1

I'm not trying to be mean...truly, but you are just too young to even have a real relationship. Right now, you are playing at relationships. I'm not saying that you don't have intense feelings, because I know you do. I remember being 15. You feel EVERYTHING out of proportion. It's natural. You just have to realize it. Things will look VERY different in 5 years and even MORE different in 10. Childhood is very fleeting. Don't be in such a hurry to play at adult games. Enjoy being 15 instead.

Answer 2

I'd say from what you write, that you shouldn't worry about it. Sounds like high school stuff. If it is then you need to focus more on your studies. Looking at someone and their looking back is a sign that they have some interest in you. But, there are still some concerns to work out in any kind of relationship.

I knew a girl in highschool and I thought she was the love of my life. I still think about her from time to time. I wonder what she might be thinking or up to. Unfortunately, we were not able to stay together.

I think we need to see beyond these relationships on the material plane. Even when our love becomes our spouse, the relationship must still meet an end at least due to death.

The most we can do is develop relationships on a more eternal platform. We can do this with someone of the opposite gender, but it doesn't have to be someone of the opposite gender. A relationship that is more on the eternal platform might have a better chance of carrying through into the next life.

Love is the most simple thing anywhere in either the material or spiritual existence. But, still, love is the most complicated thing. I think that love will always be a challenge.

Answer 3

Maybe you need to look at this from the guy's perspective.

You are talking love and committment and permanance here.

15 is also a time to play around, find out what you like and learn that you have choices. Guys know that. Girls don't.

You might be trying too hard to make things work.
You say that you "make" things better. Things need to follow their own course....you can't "make" anything, really.
Having communication problems in the first month.....??? Again, maybe you are trying to "make" things happen.

Play the field. See lots of guys. Flirt more. With more experience things will NOT feel so complicated.

Answer 4

You are just 15 and just not understanding to what love really is. It is not that love is complicated, it is the people who make it so complicated.

When two people love and care about each other, then they will do what ever it takes to make things work, fix the problems, rather than taking the easy way out.

Don't get involved with someone just yet, if you know that it is not really true love they are thinking about. Wait until you are mature and old enough to really know what this means.

Answer 5

Things change. People change. Youre not the same person you were. That's why relationships go bad. Maybe the reason why your ex is mad is because he still likes you but he found out you're with someone else. Just talk to him. If he won't. Just give it some time until he is ready and comes to you on his own. For now just be with your new boyfriend and work with that. You don't want that relationship going bad to.

Answer 6

Some people don't wanna be with each other forever. Like in High School, you most likely won't have LOVE realtionships. You might have one 4 like 2 years or something, but you'll wanna dump em' eventually. It's just life, you date in elementry, high school, and eventually fall in love. When you find the one, you will kno everything fell into place. Love is just crazy sometimes, have fun with your life. Don't worry about the boys that are too big of jerks to love you.

Answer 7

First of all after one month..how do you know you love him...second of all...if love wasn't complicated it wouldn't be worth having...nothing in life is easy and you have to work for everything. If you really like this guy and want to work things out then you need to sit him down and talk to him...let him know how you feel and that you feel that the two of you are having problems communicating....if he likes you they way you think he does the two of you will reach a compromise and everything will beback to normal. If he bails he wasn't worth your times anyways!!!!

Answer 8

Love is never complicated. You think so because you make friends without deep understanding & got hurt. Both should be sincere in relationship so move ahead to choose a dedicated & devoted B/F.

Answer 9

If it was simple I think you wouldn't like it would you?

Life is a series of random events, boons and mishaps. YOu cannot control what will come your way. The only thing you will ever have control over is how you react to each situation.

In your situation, you chose drama and complication.

Answer 10

It seems like you still have feelings for your ex. You need to try to move on and make it work with your current boyfriend. Time heals all wounds.