what do i do?

Question

ok so here it goes my ex is so hot and i really regret breaking up with him cause i was listening to other people when i shouldnt have and i know that i made a mistake and i want to apolagize to him but i am to scared to even call him what should i do

Answer 1

Why are you scared to call him? What is stopping you from apologizing to him, and asking him to take you back? Pride? Fear of rejection? You better stop and think about that - why aren't you in his arms or his bed right now? Aside from the fact that you made a bad error in judgement when you broke it off with him. Let's review that for a minute -

What brought that about? Why did YOU break it off? were you Jealous? Did you think he was cheating? Did you think he wasn't paying enough attention too you? Were'nt you getting you're way" Did he hit you? Did you two argue a lot? Did you feel you were'nt good enough for him, - or vice versa?

What was the foundation of your relationship? Love & trust, mutual respect, many things in common, similar pasts, similar hopes and dreams for the future? A common bond, like creating a child together? Were you, are you still soulmates? Were you going to get out of there together and start a real life somewhere - anywhere, just so they had a change of seasons, and you wanted to see snow again.

Or was your relationship based on incredible sex , and how wild and free you two were together, how you both were something magic and primal, something dangerous when you were together, something larger than life, something far above above the the dull and dreary empty existence of small towns and honky-tonk friday nites, something much larger that sweaty asignations in cheap highway no-tell motels, something that never ended in a blurry early morning escape into the night, more lonely that ever, desperate to connect, but unable to break the cycle of your life for something that you do not know, gave up such a long time ago...

What I'm saying is this - he may be a good man or a bad man. You may be a good judge of character or a bum-magnet. But don't hang your happiness and self esteem on a man , - or anyone else beside yourself for that matter. If your "ex" is such a hottie - I just gotta believe that you are a real knock out too! Writing to this forum for advice and different points of view bespeaks an "open" and intelligent woman weighing her options, so while you may be lacking some confidence, and self-esteem, it sounds like the rest of the package is in great working order - and I mean that as a compliment - no sarcasm or condesention intended.

So your quandry now is what do you want from him, and what does he mean to you, and I think you need to be honest with him about it. Right now if I had to guess, I think he's a nice guy who's fun to be around and good in the sack, but probably not the guy you want to marry. (Or even want to be exclusively monogamus with - I mean life is a BIG OCEAN and there area LOT of fish in the sea). I don't think you really love him, but I think you have great affection for him. So like I said - sit down and figure all this out before you sit down and talk to him. Something tells me he probably has similar feelings about you - including the great bod, and wild sex part. So good luck,

I'm pulling for you.

Answer 2

Alright well first off if you truly loved him why did you break up with him? Seriously you shoud've stayed with him even if other people thought it was a disaster. Now face the facts he's still heartbroken and there's no easy way for you to apologize. Just call him up or send him a cute card. He might not take you back, but you guys could stay in touch as friends and maybe one day when the moment is right he will realize he still likes you even though you dumped him.

Answer 3

well first if the only reason u want to be wit him is cause he is hot ur wrong thats not all that matters and if thats not it if he is a really great guy and he makes u happy then go for it just get the guts to call him and say what u feel

Answer 4

If this love worth trying, why not? You can't get what you want by sitting around worry about what could happen. Hope for the best and try. If it does not work, move on. At least you can say that you've already tried.

Answer 5

Maybe don't call.. just txt.. See if he responds back..

Txting is a little more informal so you will get an idea how he feel about you and the whole breakup..

Good luck

Answer 6

ask your friends they are the ones who messed it up for u it sounds like. u r wanting to get back just cause he is hot? not how he treats you?

Answer 7

get over it just suck it up and call her just say what u have to say

Answer 8

talk to him. tell him what really happen and that your sorry