I have a guy-friend who I like very much. He's a few years older than me so we don't exactly go to the same school. We always talk to each other and I was curious if he liked somebody just in case so I wouldn't get my hopes up. Apparently he likes another girl in his school and I pretended that it doesn't bother me and even offered to assist him in any way. I still like him but he likes another. I simply can't force him to feel otherwise. I value your opinions.
2007-02-16 13:06:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is oh so complicated. First off, just because he likes another girl DOESNT mean he doesnt like you too. Guys arent like us girls in some ways. A lot of them will have many girls on thier minds....
That said, you can go one of two ways:
First is to be honest with him. If you feel comfortable in your friendship with him and dont think it will be weird, it may be nice for you to get it off your chest, and who knows, he may feel the same!
The second is to set your sights on new horizons. Dont help him get other girls, it will just hurt you. I would distance myself from him for a little bit until I was able to stop feeling so emotional about it and decide if I really could be friends with him. If you decide you can, then take some time, and just know that another, even CUTER, boy will be coming along and that this will just seem so minute in the long run.
Hope this helps!
2007-02-16 13:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by tessybell83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, you just have to play it cool on this one. I have lots of experience with this sort of thing. Don't ever show your cards until you know the time is right. Guys (people in general) always love a challenge. I would not give him any indication at this point that you like him and continue being a REALLY GOOD FRIEND until you can sink your claws into him. The time will come if it was meant to be, trust me. Be patient.
2007-02-16 21:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should think about this a bit. do u want to tell him more than u want him to be with that girl?or do you want it the other way? should u help him with this girl or get upset and dont talk to him? you are being a good friend by putting your feelings aside for a while and thinking more about other pple's feelings. dont worry. there are many other boys out there that are as good as him and some that are better.you just have to be patient and keep doing what u are doing. he needs a friend like u. who knows maybe he might realize that too and change his mind.
2007-02-16 21:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by iNeedhelp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there is no quick and easy way to get over a crush. If there was one, I certainly would like to know.
I'm afraid you'll just have to bear the heartache until you get over person. The only reasonable thing you can do is to go on with your daily life, take it one day at a time, and try to pursue other interests.
I'm confident that, over time, you'll learn to focus your heart and mind on other areas, other than the object of your crush.
2007-02-16 21:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Roland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. It sucks. The truth is that you can't really do much about it, unless you want to move to another state or something. Getting over people takes time, and if you really want to do it you have stay away from him for a while, because it will be harder if you keep seeing/talking to him. If he's not interested in you and you keep contact, then it will just be harder for you.
2007-02-16 21:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Skyla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a few years he will be knockin down your door, so just put your crush on the back burner for a while, anyway your young and when the day comes and if the day comes you will be surprised he might not be everything that youve built him up to be, and if you land this guy, he would more than likely treat you like crap because hes aware that he can and youd still hang around, so calm your hormones and see what the future brings, just maybe you will find that it diminishes in time and he will be the one chasing you around
2007-02-16 21:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by waterboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the replacement technique. Replace all the time you used to spend thinking about "him" to doing something else, or think about something else. Crushes can become like a bad habit....they take time to work out of our system......
Think about how good you are going to do in school. Think about the next dance.....think about anything but him!
cf
2007-02-16 21:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you can't expect every guy you like to feel the same way, I'm sure you will find someone who likes you as much as you like them but by the sounds of it this guy isn't him.
2007-02-16 21:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by DataBASE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i have been though the axact same thing in fact i am still going though it and i think you should tell him how you feel that was my advice to myself i hope you are more brave than me good luck cause if you dont you will lose him and it hurts a lot worse than they say trust me dont let enyone tell you it doesnt hurt
2007-02-16 21:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...from MY perspective...you can never really get over a crush...you like 'em until they like insult you very badly...you know like if you're a mama's girl and someone instults her and you were offened by that...then I doubt you'd still like him for his personality...just his looks (if he's a good-lookin' guy..LOL)
Hope everything goes smooth sailin' with ya!
Signed,
Riley's Girl
2007-02-16 21:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋