what to do about a reoccurring dream?

Question

I have a dream about a friend who had committed suicide by hanging themself. This happend about 10 years ago! in my dream I am trying to get to her to save her but it's always too late! I wake up crying eveytime! 10 years and I am still having this dream and waking up crying! Is there any way to stop this dream?

Answer 1

I'm not a psychiatrist...and I don't play one on TV.
Dreams are often repressed thoughts that are suppressed in normal daytime distractions. The attempt to save this person is an expression of sorrow over the loss. You probably would do almost anything to right the wrong. Death is difficult to accept in any situation, but much more so in a situation where the death was some one close to you, possibly young, unexpected and by such a violent means. Suicide is for this reason a very selfish act. It leaves the living to sort out the issue and the aftermath while the person who has the actual means to resolve the problem edits them self out of the picture. The dream is yours as long as you hold onto the feeling that you could have effected a different solution. I am sorry that you have this issue to deal with. Let the memory become a memory and realize your place was not anything more than to be the friend of someone who made an ultimate bad choice.

Answer 2

Elusive dreaming is one of the new developments in science; it can help people feel empowered by changing the dream in real time. They change the ending and find a more empowered way to act out a reoccurring dream. Another approach is to see a psychologist or therapist who can help you with emotional situations that are connected with the dream. At the Dreams Foundation we offer different workshops and online courses. The moment you take any empowering action it will help you move through the fear. The dreams may not stop, but the fear will be gone and you'll have more hope and peace.
Every symbol in a dream depends very specifically on the dream and the dreamer. The general principle is that anything specific in a dream is valuable and should be looked at in terms of meaning or insight for the dreamer. So whenever a symbol gets specific, like a number, and it is a reoccurring symbol, then it's extremely valuable and definitely something worth looking at for interpreting and decoding. This can take a while and it will be specific to the dreamer and their situation and also to other dreams they have had.

Answer 3

You have taken the grieving process to a whole new level. In the first place no one can stop a person bent on dying. You are carrying a guilt that isn't yours to carry. You can find a good therapist at a mental health center with a sliding scale. I highly recommend it. I had 3 reoccurring dreams-1 I didn't know what it was about, when I woke up I would know I had it. Another was about walking the halls of my high school, once I went to college at age 34 it stopped. The other two are personal. They have gone away also.

Answer 4

Dreams are weird. Everyone has weird dreams. Don't worry too much about it. I sometimes dream about friends and/or relatives that have died, and wake up puzzled, even troubled, but I realize that it's just my mind "cleaning house". There is no real significance to the dream other than remembering that the person meant something to you, and their dying was a big deal in your life.

It'll pass.

Answer 5

Well to have that type of recurring (no o) dream indicates that you feel somewhat responsible or haven't made peace with it. You need to. How? Well I would personally say a prayer each night, talk to God and ask him to free you of your burden.

You can also just talk to your friend. You don't have to do it outloud. You can say it in your head or even try writing your friend a letter and leaving it on their grave or somewhere symbolic - maybe some place you have been together.

I think that might help you let go, without feeling like you have abandoned your friend.

Answer 6

You should look into lucid dreaming and lucid dream techniques. By learning to separate dreams from reality, you can more effectively shape your dream cycles. This may result in more fragmented sleep, but with time, you can choose to wake up (or theoretically alter your dreams) when this recurring dream surfaces. I used to have dreams about poisonous snakes in heaps surrounding me.... now I just wake up whever one starts, or I recognize I'm dreaming without waking up, diffusing the emotional investment.

Answer 7

You dream is happening cause you havent mentally/emotionally dealt fully with the issue of your friends death. Your dreams are caused by your subconciousness and the dream shows the pain you are in over that death still and suppressed emotions etc.

I suggest for you to go and see a psychotherapist.

Answer 8

You need to accept what has happened , no one can stop another person from committing suicide if they really want to.There is nothing more that you can do for your friend.
Instead , remember the good that person did.
Sooooooooo , turn this chapter of life over to God-------

Answer 9

do you happen to have watched/read or seen someone commit suicide anyhow? your dreams sometimes just replay what you see, but it mixes different things up. Try avoid watching or seeing things that involve death.

Answer 10

i'm no expert yet i think of in view which you care lots on your teeth your in basic terms dreaming approximately your fears (your worried of dropping your teeth). while you're a believer of desires telling the destiny, possibly you will lose alot of teeth.