Would you kick your son out of the house if he was gay??
Im just wondering because I'm gay and I want to see what your point of view is, so I dont make the mistake of coming out to my parents and being disowned. Thank You in advance for your answers.
2007-02-16 12:52:13 · 23 answers · asked by ♥Jesse♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would never kick my son, or daughter out for being gay. A good parent would never try to change who their child is. It may be a touchy subject at first, but they will learn to accept it. You have to stand up for yourself and never forget to show who you really are. If anybody has a problem with who you are, even your parents then you should look past it. The only person that you should make happy is yourself. It may make your parents unhappy now, it will change someday i promise. They will accept you. I found out my mom was gay when i was a sophomore in high school, and the worst thing was that i found out from one of my friends, not my mom. Im not gay but i have learned to accept my mom for who she is. I was confused at first, but i see that she is happy. And thats what family truly wants in the end, is for your happiness, even if its something that they wouldn't normally approve of is making you happy. It will take time. But good parents would love their child NO MATTER WHAT!!! Your parents should be proud of you for being honest. I would. ~Jes
2007-02-16 13:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you ask a tough question. I am a conservative Christian - I don't want to get into a big moral debate, but I do want to honestly answer your question. I think that practicing the act of homosexuality is wrong, but I love my son - it is possible to not like what a person does but still love the person. I would not kick him out just for telling me he's gay, I would certainly not disown him!! I mean if my daughters came home pregnant in high school I wouldn't be thrilled but I wouldn't kick them out or disown them. I guess the question is what would my son want from me - is he just sharing a revelation that he knows he's gay and looking for help - or is he asking me to support him in pursuing a gay lifestyle? Either way I wouldn't kick him out or disown him but I couldn't support a gay lifestyle - I don't know what we'd do - it would be tough but we would work through it because we love our children no matter what!!
2007-02-17 19:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the obvious answer is No but the truthful answer is a lot of parents think it. I don't want to scare you but you have to be realistic. I have gone thru this with my brother, and two of my best friends. with my brother at first my mom was in complete denial... "it's just a phase..." type mentality. She still is and it has been over 10 years since he has been out. My best friend is still waiting to tell his parents... he is 27 and doesn't live at home... but their family has the mentality that being gay is morally and religiously wrong. they are the type of people who very realistically may disown him. you know your parents best. don' t think for a minute that coming out is a mistake. You are who you are and they need to accept you for that. If you need to talk further I would be glad to help you thru this difficult time....as i have helped others...... Good luck and don't stress about it.... Be happy and at peace with who you are, and don't let anyone tell you that you are a "bad" person because of being gay..... You are more of a man by doing this than most will ever be in a lifetime!
2007-02-16 23:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by trippinwurmz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well everyone is different so you can't go by anyones point of view to tell how your parents are going to act. I would never throw my son or daughter out if they were gay. Thats cruel. Your kids are a part of who you are and there should be unconditional love. If your parents love you they will not care about your sexual preference. If they do then it's there loss not yours. Hang in there and Good luck!!! Don't put off telling your parents tell them right now you will feel better when you do regardless of how they take the news
2007-02-16 20:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you know your parents. How do they feel about gay people. No I would not kick my son out of the house for being gay. I think knowing my own child I would pretty much figure out that they were gay. Not sure about yours. Tread lightly-when you are ready you will know. If you aren't sure I don't know that "I" would tell them.
2007-02-17 13:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by mawat55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is gay and he is currently living back at home with us. I would never consider kicking him out of the house simply because he was gay. However, if he was disrespectful or didn't follow the house rules, that would be grounds for asking him to leave. There is never any way to predict how people will react when you tell them something about yourself. It is best to be honest with your parents. If they are upset at first, be patient with them, it was difficult at first for my husband and I to understand and accept, but with time, patience, and lots of love, we are doing well.
2007-02-16 22:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never kick my child out of my house because of sexual preference. I did however kick my daughter out for doing drugs, alcohol, and stealing my pickup. These are things that she could control and chose not to. She was 19, had plenty of warnings, and chose to continue down the wrong roads. Sexual preference is something you have no control over and I would be proud of you as long as you are a good person. Good luck as this can be a hard thing to deal wiht as a young man.
2007-02-17 17:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Vicki W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that would never happen in my home...i love my kids for who they are and if that is who they are then that is ok...and by the way i am also for the gay marriage, to me marriage is for two people in love...anyway no i would never disown or kick my child out of the house for any reason, unless they were like 30 years old and still at home then maybe...good luck with everything!
2007-02-17 14:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by MommyofThree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the mother of 2 boys, granted they are very young but I can tell you with all honesty that if either of my boys ever came to me and told me that they are gay there would not be a moment that I would waist on disappointment. True happiness is all parents really what for their children. Or at least that is the way it should be.
2007-02-16 21:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Bebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM NOT A PARENT BUUUUUUUT !
And not gay ... i see nothing wrong with gay people absolutley nothing !
idont understand why people are so mean ?
ok well
u know ur parents better than anyone does u should be the on to decifer if they will disown u or not hopefully they wont !
good luck!
2007-02-16 20:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋