If your husband was a church treasuror,and had been for the last 7 years,and did his duty faithfully,and always had praise from the parisioners about how well he was doing his job.AND ALL OF A SUDDEN THE VICAR STARTED BEING VERY IGNORANT AND RUDE TO HIM,AND RAISING HIS VOICE FOR NO APPARENT REASON .what would you do. thanks in advance.
2007-02-16 12:51:12 · 25 answers · asked by Linda 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
err tricky they have had a falling out yes well , is it a clash of personalities or quest for power as such , personally speaking if I were your husband I would resign ensuring his financial record was squeaky clean and let the parishioners make their own judgement and take the moral high ground , just because he is a man of the cloth does not mean he is beyond reproach you know , sometimes they need it badly because they feel as they are untouchable good luck to your husband anyway!
2007-02-16 13:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew1968 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some one is at fault but which ,your husband could be the best book keeper in the world but but the worsted christian,or the Vicar but the fact is one or both have lost there faith.If it was the Vicar i would get rid a.s.p because he will lose the flock for it all rests on him .If it is your husband it is the vicars job to sort with out any loss ,if he cannot he,s in the wrong job
2007-02-17 02:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by Frederick j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband should ask the vicar directly why his attitude to him has changed so much (don't use negative words like 'ignorant' and 'rude' in this case, better to express it in more neutral terms), as your husband is concerned that he may have inadvertently offended him? The vicar might have other problems and he's just taking them out on your husband (everyone is human), but if your husband remains calm, neutral and open to talking about it, then he should find out the source of the problem fairly quickly. Once he knows that, then he's halfway to solving it.
2007-02-17 11:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the vicar and you husband have some issue they need to work out. I think the key here "no APPARENT reason" Maybe the reason is just unknown to you. Maybe you could talk to the vicar in private in a non-threatening manner and see what he has to say.
2007-02-16 13:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by rbarc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with your husband and the vicar and discuss it calmly ask the vicar what exactly the problem is and try to come to a solution if the vicar is being rude then he is not doing his job
2007-02-16 12:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might question if the Vicar is practising what he preaches, or go even further and question his piety ( nearly 50% of Vicars no longer believe).
It may be that the Vicar is incredibly stressed or even sick, you should start by asking if there is anything you can do to help and forgive his unacceptable behaviour.
Good luck.
2007-02-16 13:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Gent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your husband is being judged behind his back, about something. Perhaps you and or your husband should talk to others in the church and than all go and have a talk with this brother to seek the truth of the problem. The truth is always the best route, for your peace, and for the church. Do what Jesus would do:)
2007-02-16 13:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by inteleyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd suspect the vicar of doing something dodgy. A vicar shouldn't behave like that.
You should ask your husband why he thinks it is happening and when it started. Report it to the authorities of your church and consider moving to a different church. i'm sure you'll be welcomed elsewhere.
2007-02-16 16:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Apparently this is not related to religion or spirituality of the two involved.Why should somebody change his attitude, all of sudden must be studied in the sceneraio psychological interaction.If the missing link is not brouhgt for analysis, any conclusion shall be of no avail.Mind when the christ started criticising the monetary and worldly lusts of jewish clergy, they have not forgotten the insult till today, even after avenging their anger by his crucification.The religiousity makes people small in their aspirations and mean in their expectation and cruel in their dealing.Please be bold to tell the truth.
2007-02-16 15:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by shahinsaifullah2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that were the case I'd first pray for the Vicar. Then I'd point out to him how he's being perceived and ask if he would like to talk it through.
2007-02-16 13:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by stpolycarp77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋