i went to a club last weekend (it's now friday).i danced with one guy for a bit but left because i figured he'd want to dance with other girls & my friend also wanted to change locations.then i danced with a different guy who i really liked.we danced for a good 1-2 hours but didn't talk much & when the club was closing he asked if i was going there the next weekend,i said i was not sure.then i offered him my number(he did seem to want it)so he gave his phone to me and i put it in.after that, the 1st guy i danced with asked for my number (i have problems saying no)& then texted me the same night saying he saw me with the 2nd guy etc.the 2nd guy hasn't called and I'm guessing he won't after this long unless he wants sex?the 1st guy is on my IM and whenever I talk to him he always sweet-talks me and asks me to hang out with him.i think he's just trying to to have sex & probably thinks i'm easy because i danced with 2nd guy.this is depressing but i think i'm right about both guys. Am i?
2007-02-16 12:47:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, guys you meet in clubs can often be the type that you're thinking of...i mean, they're out where there will be loads of girls who've had a little to drink and want to dance!
but you get exceptions...only you can really judge the character.
guy #1 seems to be hanging on a while and putting some effort in, so if he asks to hang out then maybe one meeting in an informal public place (say, a coffee?) can't hurt and would give you a chance to judge him better? that way if it does turn out that he's just after one thing, you're in a position where you don't have to see him again! but dancing with a few people doesn't make you easy...maybe if you'd kissed him and then the other guy it would be a differnt story, but i don't know if he'd immediatly jump to that conclusion...
hope it works out, if not then just right them off and learn from it :)
2007-02-16 12:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by sky_blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are tricky...you never know if they want you for sex or a relationship, unless someone you know knows them. If you really like the 2nd guy, you should of just called him, then you could hang out and get to know him. You don't have to give it up, just see how his personality is. But, my friends and I usually don't have luck when meeting a guy at the club.
2007-02-16 13:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both want sex. If you want to have a good time go to the clubs, but I think if you're looking for a long term relationship, it's a lot harder to meet someone in clubs because you can lose track of them, and you don't really get to know them, only if they can dance well.
2007-02-16 12:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that you are in fact right. Unfortunaly at clubs guys are looking for one thing. Sex. and I am a guy. I woulkd say that the first sen you with the other and did not want to loose the chance. If there was one. In todays world, that seems to be what is first, though you wanted to just have fun, I think you need to re think what you are looking for and where.
2007-02-16 12:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Randall L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guess is the first guy has an interest in you. the second guy wants a booty call. call the first guy and ask him out. but if he gets grabby ditch him and find someone else to dance with. remember, life is just a series of meetings.
2007-02-16 12:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you already know the answer. I would forget about both guys and move on to someone who doesn't think you are to easy and wants to be with.
2007-02-16 12:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by David F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, this is how clubs usually work. you hardly ever find someone who wants to be in a relationship but you find plenty of people who want some ***.
2007-02-16 12:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WELL MAYBE YOU REALLY DID HAVE INTEREST GET TO KNOW HIM AND GO SOMEWHERE WITH HIM AND SEE HOW HE IS AND STUFF AND IF YOU DONT LIKE HIM THEN JUST DONT TALK TO HIM ANYMORE AFTER THAT BUT BE CARFul! =good luck
2007-02-16 12:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are. Don't go for it, unless you want your feelings hurt.
2007-02-16 12:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh............................................... The first one either likes you or wants to get in bed with you. I think its the latter
2007-02-16 12:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋