what should you do if you hate your sisters boyfriend?

Question

My sister has been going out with a boy for about I think 9 months. No one in my family likes him because he lives in a bad neighborhood and is a different race then us. my sister goes to a very good university and he is in community collage and is in a band and I think he’s lazy I have tried everything to tell my sister that she needs better and can get better my parents have given up on her but I know the longer it goes on the worse it will get and I need help to tell her she is wasting her time on a loser but she says I will not marry him but I don’t wont her to miss an opportunity of meeting a better guy I don’t know what to do I have tried to talk to her write her a letter and got closer to her but she still says the same thing I have to do something because I think he is using her and she’s not getting anything out of this. I don’t want her to make a stupid mistake and end up running away or pregnant or drop out of school to be with him.

Its not that we don’t like him because he is a different race or lives in a bad neighborhood is that he has been raised a different way and does not want better for himself if I came from a bad place I would want to get out and do better for myself like go to university and be something to show my family that I’ m capable of better. but he’s lazy and is not taking enough classes and he has changed my sister I don’t think a boy is worth messing up your family relationship he knew that my sister was moving when he started going out with her so I don’t know why he still perused her and to me blood is thicker then water so if my family and Best Friend did not like him I would stop and she did not tell us about him until after 2 months after because she knew we would not approve so I think she is doing this to be rebellious and she says im sick of trying to pleas my family so I hope this

a faze and one day I hope she thanks us for trying this hard and she says he never visited her at school and I went to her dorm and there was a note to her roommate that said nice meeting you so I cant let this go on any longer before I give her an ultimatum and just stop thinking of her as my sister because everyone has had enough and I cant accept it because if something happens I will never forgive myself or her.
-Thanks for reading this and giving me ideas of what to do I really appreciate it.
And I know she’s not me but that’s how we were raised so she is like me a little.

Answer 1

I can tell you care about your sister, but maybe the best thing to do here is to back off. You're not in charge of her life. Be polite and civil to her, and to her boyfriend, too, because no matter how you may wish otherwise, she might marry him and then he will be part of your family, like it or not.

You may also want to carefully examine your motives for feeling so vehemently opposed to this relationship. The fact that he lives in a lesser neighborhood and is a different race doesn't make him less of a person. Give him a chance.

After all, you have to accept the fact that your sister sees something in him. It could also be possible that the more you and your parents harass her about this guy, the more she is going to dig in.

Ease up. You might get much better results.

Answer 2

Since there is nothing u can do about the situation, forget it. The more u try breaking them up, the more ur sister is going to take his part. So leave them alone and let ur sister make her own decisions, good or bad, there is a lesson to be learned here.

Answer 3

The only thing you can do is be there to pick up the pieces when he breaks her heart.