so me and my fiancee have been together bout 5yrs now &we jus got engaged a mthago he was livin wit me but had to moveout cuz he had to get a job to pay his fin!he left last thurs its been a wk i have gon to see him bout 4times since. hes living at his aunts house &he cuz is bestfreinds wit his ex so she over there allthetime he promises me nothing is going to happen that he will stay asfaras he can away from her so i was like ok i saw him last night &he was being all extra sweet &what not then he was suppose to come stay the weekend wit me so we could see each other i called him &he said he couldnt come cuz he had to work till 1or2am which is weird cuz he was jus at work today from 4am-5pm so i was wonderin &said well ill jus come stay over there till you get off then he was like no no cuz it might be later. then i was really upset thinkin his hidin somethin &then i found out hes exs there he says hes not goin to cheat he has to work to come get him1st thing in the mornin what do i do
2007-02-16 11:59:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Baby Gurl, does it really matter what we think? The majority of us think that your man is playing games with you, and in your heart of hearts, you know it's true, but I'm sure that you will allow him to tell you something that you will choose to believe...So that's why I ask, does it really matter what we think?
My advice would be to leave him alone.
2007-02-16 12:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump to conclusions right away. You may be wrong and if that were the case you'd feel pretty shitty. First look at all clues if any. Watch and pay attention for a few more days. Try really hard not to read more into things then take it from there. If you still have those feelings then act. If you keep accusing him or asking him if he's cheating he's just gonna get pissed off at you and you don't want that. Good luck and chin up.
2007-02-16 12:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is not right at all. Maybe you should drop in on him. Don't let him know when you go over to see him. Make sure, if his ex is there. To love on him. Tell him all the time you love him. Watch her, and see how she acts. Also how he acts. Than that will shine light on, what might be going on. There don't seem like there was a good a nuff. Reason for him to move out, of your place. Best Of Luck
2007-02-16 12:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetblue85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girlfriend, its time to take control and don't panick. Have you spoken to his aunt? since she may have an idea. Anyway, whatever the case the main thing is to act nonchalant. Get busy yourself and I don't mean cheat as well, cos that's not going to solve anything. Visit your girlfriends, have a good time too and see how long him avoiding you is going to take. Meanwhile think whether its worth it being with this person, that is if he is cheating at all. Maybe you both just need some space.
Take care.
2007-02-16 12:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by esai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you let him come to you. If you don't see him in a week you'll know he doesn't really want to commit to you - he's just been looking for an excuse to opt out of the relationship. Take a good hard look at what the two of you have...and maybe all you've had is companionship and he wants more.
2007-02-16 12:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, why were you with a guy who didn't have a job until he got a fine? second of all, why did he move out of his fiance's place to live with his aunt when he finally did get a job? third of all, why are you doing all of the traveling to see him?
he's cheating, honey, and if he's not, he's pretty darned close. at the very least, he's avoidiing you. is that how you want to spend your marriage, with a jobless guy who can't afford his own place, expects you to do all the traveling, and ignores you?
you deserve MUCH better.
2007-02-16 12:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Over there. Do some detective work. I think your right. He's not telling you everything. And this Ex thing has to stop. You're engaged!
2007-02-16 12:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kant de-code your typing....GEEZ, I got down to the 4th or 5th line and I was still on the same sentence. And there were so many spelling errors that I couldn't go any further.
Yes, it sounds like he is cheating on you this is the longest runon sentence intheworld.
2007-02-16 12:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the real world, spelling everything all wrong and running all your sentences together is not desireable.
Your man is cheating on you.
2007-02-16 12:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by MisterO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, with a capital D.
2007-02-16 12:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by DeMaris I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋