he pays small amount of rent, probably expects that maid service is included in the rent. I'm going to put him out. After all, I want him to be a responsibile citizen not a freeloader. The money is not as important as him becoming a real man--a responsibile, law abiding, adult!
2007-02-16 11:35:04 · 18 answers · asked by adrian.cole@sbcglobal.net 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Completely strip his room of everything except some clothes. Leave him a bed and a dresser and if your feeling nice even his TV, When he asks where all of his stuff is, tell him that if there is nothing in his room at all then there is nothing to clean up. I did this to my 18 year old and boy did it work, OK for about two months it worked, then every time he liked a girl or had friends over i would embarrass him by taking them (especially the girls) to his room and teasing him about how disgusting his room was.
2007-02-16 12:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I had a 19-year-old daughter who moved back into the house after a year and a half, wiht no rent whatsoever. She refused to clean her room, did not help wiht cooking or cleaning, would not babysit her younger siblings, and went out at all hours of the night and would not come home and would not call. She basically was a terrible, terrible squatter. The last straw was when we found out she didn't have a drivers license because of an unpaid citation, and then she stole out pickup one night when we went out with some friends. We called the cops to arrest her and kicked her out of the house. So if you son is just not cleaning his room, beware it could and probably will get worse. Get a handle on it before it gets out of hand. Don't let him be a freeloader in any way, he is a guest in your house and should act like you want him to act. If you ask him to clean his room he should clean it or have an eviction notice posted.
2007-02-17 17:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by Vicki W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd start with talking to him first and telling him something like this is still my house and you have to respect that so if you can't keep the space tidy you will have to go and find your own space.. then he has that option to change which creates less friction than if you just kick him out.. he only has three years to go before he is a complete adult (in the sense of laws etc) so he will need to start getting his act together pretty soon, or you could take the door to his room off the hinges, my parents did that to my 13yr old sister because she kept slamming it when having a tantrum, but it had an amazing effect on the state of her room! it was spotless the whole time lol. you should just do what you feel is best for yourself and for your son.. is his room dirty or just messy..
2007-02-16 20:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by jarellsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him the cost of a maid service - he can hire one since you are not the maid and he is expected to keep his room clean. Also get him a for rent paper next time you are out and encourage him to get looking. Good Luck!
2007-02-16 19:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him? Explain to him that as a renter he has an obligation to keep his rented space clean and healthy but remember that he rented it. As long as there aren't pests or mold, it is his. A little respect goes a long way, both ways. A quick word about respecting his space if he can respect yours. He's 19, not 35, give him the ground rules and then let him impress you.
2007-02-16 19:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19? At 19 i was in the Army, getting ready to head off to Afghanistan for the first time shortly after 911 (im not bragging, just giving facts). Believe you me, at 19 i didnt have issues about not wanting to clean my room. I was well far beyond that.
Tell that kid to either straighten up and clean his room or go enlist.
2007-02-16 21:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does cleaning his bedroom have to do with being a law abding adult? Just shut the door of his bedroom and next time you see him hand him a can of lysol so the stench doesn't reach the rest of the house.
2007-02-17 06:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good mom, trying to do what's right for your son. There are 2 ways to approach this. 1) Give him 30 days to "clean or get out" (on the 30th day) And stick to it. or 2) shut the bedroom door and say "screw it, it's not worth the stress or possibility of losing my son."
2007-02-16 19:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mum moved to Spain for 8 months to get rid of me and my brother, did me good but brother is still in the gutter. I was paying £125 ($245) at the time now I pay in excess of £500 ($995) a month. Now realise how lucky I was and how good she was to me.
2007-02-16 19:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write out a contract explaining what he gets for his rent. Make sure that it includes charging extra if you have to call in an exterminator, or any other professional services, due to sloppiness. If he won't agree to it, then you tell him to move out.
2007-02-16 19:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by Uther Aurelianus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋