hi.. well i wana ask some advice.. im trying to build up my confidence as i have poor self esteem and therefore it prevents me from being relaxed in most social situations and it makes it so hard to mkae freinds because am too scared that they wont like and accept me as well as thinking bad of me eg. dum, weak, silly, unlikeable, annoyin well things like tht.. but now i have started facing my fears.. like talking to people more and not hiding out all the time.. but i feel like am too needy because am the one that has to go up to people at college and start talking to them do u think am doing the right thing>?
ps: ni extra tips u have about this issue plz do not hesitate thnks..
2007-02-16 11:23:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in all honesty, the aspects you described in your character are probably the exact opposite, excluding perhaps being shy. you just need to get out there and start talking to people. once you make some new friends etc, you wont have an image of "needy" as you call it, and people will come and talk to you. you just need to be "needy" a couple of times, then you wont have to again, as your new friends will have friends, youll meet them, guys etc. it all works out.
2007-02-16 11:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by midnightsnacker13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm impressed with you!
Most people don't realize as much as you have.
Yes, you're doing the right thing. The best way to build confidence is to gain experience. Just walk up to people and start conversations with them, in fact, I've heard of a trick that people often use where they go to the mall or some place where they know there will be a lot of people and they simply say: "Excuse me, I'm working on building up my confidence, thanks for helping" and then if their confidence freaks them out they'll walk off and try it on the next person and the next person until they get it down to where they don't have a fear of talking to people. Eventually you'll learn some more and more things just by talking to people, and often times they'll give you some tips in person just because you took the effort to talk to them and explain your situation.
Some more things you can try is learning and practicing correct posture. (straight back, walking tall. shoulders down and not tense. Head forward not down at the ground. Slow calculated movements as opposed to fast twitchy stuff, etc. You can probably look up more on the internet.)
2007-02-16 11:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by DatingZion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
during social events, find a person who's standing by herself/himself and talk to them.be genuinely interested in what they have to say..always remember that everybody likes to have someone to come up to them for a little chat especially when they are alone..don't worry about sounding stupid or whatever..they are probably having the same insecurities as you do..
2007-02-16 11:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Tsarina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it up, go out of your comfort zone...
2007-02-16 11:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋