How can I alleviate how much I worry?

Question

I worry, worry, worry. I have a lot of anxiety in my life. I constantly worry that I'm going to lose my girlfriend even though there is no indication of that in our relationship. I worry that I'm going to end up like my mom who died miserable. I worry about my job, my finances, etc. I just don't know how to cope, and I really need help because I'm starting to have panic attacks. I try to think positive, but it doesn't work. Has anyone went through this type of problem and overcame it? I have an appointment with a therapist on February 23rd, and yesterday I went to the doctor and he prescribed wellbutrin for me. I haven't told anyone that I worry as much as I do because I'm afraid it's going to make me seem weak. I especially don't want to burden my gf with these problems because I want her to know that I'm capable of being a good father. I have no self confidence, and I've been through a lot of hardships throughout my life, especially in my childhood. Please HELP!

Answer 1

Change your diet. Don't take drugs.
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Answer 2

You're on the right track with the Therapist and the meds from your doctor. TAKE the meds on a regular basis and remember that most psychotropic medications aren't an instant "fix" for anxiety. You have to take them for a while before you can begin to see the difference. When you begin to feel a little calmer, I suggest that you do sit down and talk to your g/f because this is likely to be a lifelong situation for you. If you have a chemical imbalance, you will probably need medication for a good many years, if not the rest of your life. Try not to sweat the small stuff, and tell yourself that everything is small stuff. Trite sounding I know, but it does help. Ask yourself if the "whatever" you are stewing over at the moment is gong to have changed the course of your life by this time next year. If the answer is not then put it in your mental trash can and don't forget to take out the trash. Remember that having problems isn't what makes a man seem weak...it's the refusal to acknowledge the problems and get help for him that do that. It takes a strong man to face his demons. You are stronger than you're giving yourself credit for because you had the fortitude to recognize that you have a problem and seek some help. SEE that therapist..and TALK. Get whatever is eating you out of your gut and on the table. I promise you, it will shrink when you take a real look at it. Good luck.

Answer 3

I think you have already done the right thing going to get a therapist although it can still take months of treatment and getting the right medication you are def not on your own for a min I thought you was talking about me try getting a good sleep pattern dont eat after 7oclock and cut out yellow food and e numbers drink plenty water
this will help cut down the hyperactivity of your thoughts if you been like this ages it will be easyer said than done good look <>

Answer 4

There are some things that all of us worry about. And, yes, we must take care of crucial things in our lives. But try to enjoy and treasure your days. They go by so quickly! I think over worrying is a control issue. And we can't control everything, right? You are wasting so much time by worrying too much.

Answer 5

Human Beings are THINKING creatures. Every moment of every day, our minds are working to make sense out of what we see and experience. Thinking is an ABILITY that you have, a function of your mind.

Your thoughts are just "Thoughts." They are neither true or false, they are just thoughts. YOU are the one who determines their relevance.

According to Richard Carlson's book You Can Be Happy No Matter What, taking your THOUGHTS too seriously will make you unhappy.

Negative thoughts in the moment lead to negative feelings in the moment which leads to a negative mood. Then the negative mood leads to negative feelings in the moment which leads to more negative thoughts. It becomes a vicious circle.

But the reverse is also true. Thinking positive thoughts in the moment leads to positive feelings in the moment which leads to a positive mood.

The trick is not to try to feel better or think more positively. The trick is just to think about something positive. For example, when I find myself worrying too much, I DELIBERATELY start thinking about something I like, like "I like the music of Bette Midler, I like her song From A Distance, I like Wind Beneath My Wings." After a few minutes, I FEEL BETTER and I STOP WORRYING.

Please read Richard Carlson's book You Can Be Happy No Matter What. It changed my life.

Answer 6

Don't worry worry until worry worries you!