i'm trying to get over this guy, the one i've asked a previous question about and i'm finding it a little hard. it was nothing serious but he was the first decent, great guy in my life after ages and he was so nice to me before totally ignoring me that i'm finding it difficult to forget him. and it's the fact that he never said he didn't like me just never got into touch which makes me think he might be interested though it's obvious that he's not.
and i don't need advice like go out with ur friends, have fun etc. cos i'm doing all that anyway. i just need advice on how to not think about him first thing when i wake up and at night. and how i can stop myself from adding him back onto my msn again and again cos i think he's already blocked me.
i need help!!
and no smart asses please.
2007-02-16 10:44:15 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i've already tried talking to him but he's just not interested, he says yeah we need to talk and i haven't heard from him for a week so he's just playing me about. that's what i never got, he says he likes me, we need to talk, he'll text me, but never does. so it's best i move on cos he's playing me for a fool.
2007-02-16 12:03:29 · update #1
I know it's difficult for you because you are remembering the nice things this guy did for you. To totally ignore you for no reason is not a very nice thing to do, so I think you are forgetting that he has done something not so nice as well. He also hasn't got the decency to get in touch with you to tell you that he isn't interested. If you try to focus on the not so nice things this guy has done, maybe you will be able to get over him a little easier. Anyway there are loads of really nice guys out there, when you find one, you will wonder what you actually saw in the one you are pining after now. Best of luck.
2007-02-16 10:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start thinking about all the things which annoy or upset you about him - he blew hot and cold didn't he? What kind of guy worth your time would just ignore you if he liked you at all?
You know that nothing you can do can change his behaviour so all you can do is change your own. I suggest you focus your attention on someone else for a while - a bit of reminiscing about a different old flame may be all you need. If you think that going online will only tempt you into pursuing him, it may be worth going cold turkey for a while and avoiding MSN - consider it a diet - you'll soon lose the cravings and find something (someone) equally if not more satisfying to indulge in!!
2007-02-16 18:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by joliefille 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, there isn't much you can do. the only thing that will help heal your heart is time. I hate to say, but it's true. Just taking it one day at a time is the best option. As much as it sucks and hurts; the more you try to not think about him, the more you probably will.
When I got divorced I felt the same way, but it took me two years to get over everything, and I've since moved on to better things. I hope it doesn't take you 2 years, but best of luck anyway.
2007-02-16 18:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by evil_paul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to forget about someone who showed you that you deserved to be treated nicely? A fond memory should always be remembered and embraced for what it was. Rather than fighting each day to forget him, which only makes you remember him more, why not try smiling? Though the time you spent with him was short, the quality of time shared was eternal and you now know what you are looking for in a friendship.
Just keep smiling and move on.
2007-02-16 18:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by oceanlady_slh67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you had it ,or still have it bad for this guy , I could go through the whole rigmarole of telling you to do this and that but I won't what Ido think you need is clarification of his feelings towards yourself that will either open up the flood gates for a reconciliation or give you closure of the relationship and that it is beyond any reconciliation ! go find him ,talk to him find out where you are at ask him to be honest and not spare your feelings as blokes mostly do when they don't feel anything for a relationship anymore , well the decent ones do , so go to young lady just so you can continue with your search for the next fantstic bloke!
i hope this helps you and you find what you are looking for!
2007-02-16 18:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew1968 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isnt much you can do to get over being heartbroken, and i am not trying to act like a smart *** but try to find a new guy that you are interested in, a guy that hopefully wont break your heart as badly, just dont be a pessimist about it, and you should know what pessimist mean cus im only in 6th grade! maybe get into sports or something that you look forward to rather than looking forward to your ex!
sorry about what happened, but about the msn thing, get a new e-mail account and e-mail him from taht, that could work for a while unless he blocks you from that!
ttyl
2007-02-16 18:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the advice in the world won't stop you thinking about him. It sounds like you are already keeping yourself occupied so I won't offer advice about that.
You need to find the will power now not to text him, call him or MSN him. Delete all his contact details from everywhere - even though it will hurt like hell to do this.
I've been in the same position myself so I sympathise and understand.
Who knows, if he really thinks you've lost interest and moved on he may realise he's made a mistake and want you back - it does happen!
Take care x
2007-02-16 18:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation to be in, so just hang in there. I'm afraid the only cure to this is time.... so girl, just keep doing what you're doing! Have fun, go out, do whatever makes you feel good inside and put yourself first before anything else!!! Take care and I wish you good luck... (I went through some bad **** like this too)
2007-02-17 00:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by luvluv_86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i think that the more that you try and block him out ther more he will appear in your thoughts break ups take time especially ones that are not that good, give yourself time to heal everybody is differnet. I think that you are being too hard on yourself in terms of getting over him.
In terms if the msn i think that you should just go on it less often because you r just setting yourself up for hurt.
Everything that you are going through is natural
2007-02-16 19:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mumzii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you are doing to you and the only person who can legitimately stop the whole thing is also you, but I would encourage you to remember all the good things about him and how you felt about yourself while you were with him because those things can often make you feel good about life in general. It is when the whole thing gets disappointing or makes you sad that you need to step forward and cease dwelling upon it. Good luck to you, as time itself will help you immensely to get this whole thing into proper balance. - C.
2007-02-16 20:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋