I feel like a loser. How can I stop feeling like this?

Question

I am 33.
I work two low-paying jobs.
I still live at home.
I have never had a girlfriend.
I am still a virgin.
I have a big nose, a skinny face, and balding.

How do I stop feeling like a loser?
Or am I loser for the rest of my life?

Answer 1

Ok first off no one is a loser. No ONE! kk! Now not everyone grows and blossoms as fast as others. You will find that special someone one day because there's someone out there for everyone. It's okay if your still a virgin or have never had a girlfriend. Because when you get one or you lose your virginity your going to like the fact that you waited because it'll be all worth while. Now I don't know what to say about your low paying jobs except you could get training and study in the field you think you want and then just go from there. After that you can get a better job and move out. And I am sorry you think your nose is big and that your face may be skinny and that your balding. But not everyone is perfect. There are some people out there with worse things. Everyone has imperfections. So just think of yourself as a winner and wing it buddy. Good luck, and I hope everything turns out good in the end.

Answer 2

Well, first stop being one! And don't take that in a bad way. You don't have to be a loser. 1. 33 is not old, if u live the be 100 then you still have 77 years of your life left. That's a LONG time. 2. Yeah, you work 2 low-paying jobs, but while you are working those jobs think of something you would like to be doing. My dad is 54 and he's going back to school to be a mortician. Pick something you would enjoy doing and DO IT, no matter how old you are. Go back to school or a trade school or whatever and try it. 3. Yeah, you are a little old to still be living at home, but save up some money to get a low-income apartment. 4 and 5. Never had a girlfriend. Put yourself out there. And i'm sure once you get an apartment and a new job this will change too. All the other stuff you mentioned doesn't matter. You won't be a loser for the rest of your life if you do something about it! If you complain about your life and never do anything to change it then YES you will be a loser for the rest of your life. Take yourself and your life how it is and work wit what you got!:D good luck!

Answer 3

Well Larry, you must start with a more positive self image. Have you ever heard "you get in what you put in", or "You reap what you sow". Change your ID on here to just Larry, or something more positive, or even funny (like Larry the cable guy or something). Next realize that you are created in the image and likenss of God, and that is awesome! He has a very specific purpose for you, and it's up to you to seek him and find out what that is. Also, don't look at your features as flaws. What some consider ugly others consider attractive. For example, the hip trend these days is fuller lips. Hollywood, etc are projecting that great big fat lips is hot, and to some peole the are, but not me. I like thin, and soft lips. I like it when my wife kisses me and I dont need to worry about her swallowing my entire face by accident. (Just an example.) Also, I have an attraction to the more natural, native American beauty (my wife is 1/4 Cherokee), so some might say she has a big nose. I wouldn't have it any other way. I think her nose is perfect. Get the idea? As for the circumstances: After embracing who you are, realize some things are in your control. Get a better job, if you like. If you need more education or trainning to do so then do it. It's in your control. And if you're in your 30s and still living at home with your parents, that's a BIG reason you haven't had a girlfriend. Walk with God, work on your self image, and get out on you own. Be the man you've always wanted to be, and go out and make friends, with real people in your community. Get hooked up in a good Bible preaching word of faith local church, and meet the exact right person God has for you. Be at peace and find joy in the little things. Take walks in the park, get a dog or something to help you not feel so lonely and give you something to laugh at. But really the MOST important answer is Jesus Christ, make him your best friend and your life will just get better and better.

Answer 4

Dude. If YOU think your a loser, than I guess you are. If YOU think your better than that, then I think you are. How you see yourself, reflects a great deal in how others see you as well.

I have friends who aren't that good looking, they are a bit obnoxious at times, and can be leeches every now and then. But they find confidence in themselves, and for the most part have a good heart. And they are well received. Not all the time, but they are happy.

Start by changing the things YOU don't like about yourself, or your situation. ie. WORK on getting a better job. A better job, means more money, more money will allow you to get your own place. Having your own place will help when you meet a girl. It also doesn't hurt to get a makeover. Change your fashion. If your balding, just shave the whole thing off. Grow a goatee to balance out your features. But it's your personality that will be the "selling" point. Don't ever sell yourself short.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Make of a list of things you want to accomplish. Top of the list, a better paying job perhaps? What do you have to do to get that?
When you figure that out, just do it. A person's personality is really a huge attraction to alot of women...not so much looks. Women are drawn to people that make them feel good. Think about what you do. Do you put out that vibe? Also, get your own place...or even find a roomate to share expenses with. You are not a loser for living at home, however, its very important to be independent...that gives a person a huge character boost.
You can always visit home and still have Mom cook for you.
Also, buy yourself some new clothes...dress with style. And, always iron your shirts and don't ever ever wear tennis shoes, unless you are jogging or playing tennis. I'm serious.

Answer 6

First of all...stop calling yourself a loser and wake up and change your own life! It starts with you...only you can change yourself and make your life better. If you have two low paying jobs then try to go back to school by taking night classes. If you never had a gf then go out and meet people. There is someone out there for all of us. If you are unhappy with your looks then change them. Work out more...lift weights. Get a hair piece or hair restoration...I don't know. It seems to me that you have low self esteem and you have to work on yourself and getting that up if you ever want to make your life better. Put a smile on your face and stop acting so gloomy! Make some friends! Tell a joke! Find something you enjoy doing and stop feeling sorry for yourself! You are not a loser! Ever hear of self fulfilling prophecy? Don't do that to yourself!

Answer 7

Dude you're not alone! I am 34, work a low paying job, an am a virgin. I figure I was just taught all the wrong things about approaching women from my puritanical mother (that and a few other circumstances). You need to read up on what those so called players have to say about this (like at:http://www.fastseduction.com/), even if you don't subscribe to all their beliefs you could use some of those techniques. And get out and socialize and appear to be more confident (even if you are all mush inside like me), it really does make a difference. Good luck!

Answer 8

Is this a joke? How can one feel like they are losers.
You could feel unhappy with yourself sometimes but that shouldnt say you are loser. Or are you really one?

Go to the Gym and try fight work outs to improve your self estime. Hang out with confident people. you can still be beautiful even if your nose is huge and your skin ugly.
Common stop thinking you are a loser your mind might make you believe you are really one

Answer 9

Man or woman, self-confidence and NOT feeling like a loser comes from 1 thing: the satisfaction you get from setting out to get things through your own efforts and noticing in retrospect that you got them. Eventually the feeling changes from "I'm just a loser" to "I can do this" and has the effect of amplifying your self-esteem and the ability to feel better about yourself. Set some goals for yourself start accomplishing them. Stretch and set bigger goals as you progress. Good luck.

Answer 10

Make changes. Look for one decent-paying job. Save enough money to move into your own apartment. Don't lose your virginity until marriage (like the Bible says). Have plastic surgery or find a girl who will accept you just the way you are. Join some fun dating sites. Make changes so you don't feel like you're in such a rut all the time.