i dont feel close to my dad like i used to now hes blaming my mom for me not being close to him.(he says mom is makin me hate him) my brother was the same way when he was my age..hes now 30..for some reason when we were younger we were closer to our dad but now we're not..my dad rarely talks to me and asks me quetion about my life and he wonders y we not close..how can i get him to realize his problems?
2007-02-16 10:19:06 · 6 answers · asked by bandi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your dad seems to be acting like the child here. Let him know that communication is a two way street. Let him know that if he wants a better relationship with you, all he needs to do is to pursue it and to stop talking trash about your mom. Let him know that if he is willing to work harder at it, you too will make the effort to have a better relationship with him. That way, you put it in his hands and he has no one to blame but himself if it doesn't work out the way he hoped.
Good Luck!
2007-02-16 10:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit both your mother and father down. Your father's words could be affecting your mom secretly, so to be on the safe side you should talk to them both. Tell him how you feel and let him know that your mom has nothing to do with the way you have been acting. That way if he begins to start blaming your mom again, you can quicklly come to her defense and tell him that's it's not her, but him. It will sink in to him.
2007-02-16 10:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by nicky3162002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him that you would like to change your relationship, but he's probably hoping that you also miss him. Do you? If yes, then you need to meet him half way, which means you also need to make an effort...by maybe suggesting things you both could do together. Let him know you would also like to change the way things are, but he'll need to match your effort, and quit blaming mom.
2007-02-16 10:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by momof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your brother are grown and you both have your own life now, i am sure your dad doesn't feel that way have you tried to have a conversation with your dad? he ask you questions at least he ask and those are the kind of questions that tells him that you are doing ok, right?
2007-02-16 10:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should have a one on one talk with your dad & if that doesn't seem to help have one with your dad & brother and hopefully he see's his mistakes.
2007-02-16 10:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Confussed Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then tell your father how you feel
2007-02-16 10:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋