how do i break up with my bf, we have been going with him for only a week, we have best friends for 2 yrs and we just started going out. i just found out that i dont like him, i only liked the fact that he liked me. how do i break up with him without hurting him... cuz he really really likes me. He told my bff that if i ever broke up with him, hed do nething to get me back (stalkerish i know) and i just dont want to hurt him. i know there prob isnt a way to keep the friendship, but i really dont want to make him cry.... what is an excuse or something that i can use. i dont care if its a lie, i just wnat an exucuse. also, he is trying to makeout with me like now, and i dont want that, so the sooner the breakup the better for me.
2007-02-16 10:04:34 · 18 answers · asked by anysportzchik 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also, dont tell me about honestly, sadly that ship has sailed.
i need excuses, and ones that can be used by a 7th grader.
also he knows my parents are ok with us going outl
2007-02-16 10:24:38 · update #1
Don't do it on the phone, and respect him enough to give him the truth. Let him know that you really care about him, and maybe that confused you. Tell him your intent is not to hurt him, but that your feelings for him do not progress beyond friendship. If he really likes you, and you do care about him as your friend, give him the courtesy of honesty and not leading him on. It will be hard, and he may cry. You'll want to be there for him if he does, but remember that being there may be like pouring salt on the wound because of the way he feels about you. I've had this happen before, only I had been dating my best friend for 2.5 years. It seems like you wanted to like him in that way, and maybe you should tell him that, but you can't force feelings that aren't there no matter how bad you want them. Good luck, and don't worry. You are not responsible for other people's feelings, you can only be sensitive to them. People choose the way they want to feel about something, if you feel responsible it's like you are choosing those feelings for them. Make sense?
2007-02-16 10:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by water lover 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come on; this is a lame question. How can I break his heart without breaking his heart? There's no way to NOT hurt him. Just tell him the truth and be honest. Be sensitive as well.
In time he'll realize that your not all that and move on. You ruined a freindship because you liked your ego being stroked. Pretty sad. Again, be honest and he'll bounce back in time.
Your only in the 7th grade? Your way too young to be in a relationship and your actions show that. Go on group dates and stop acting so grown up. It will come soon enough.
2007-02-16 10:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just decide for you to have a meeting with him one day and meet him face to face no texting or calling him an just tell him that you think the two of you are not gona work out and the fact that you just wont mind being friends with him.. but the stalking part ehhh I Think you should monitor that, if he does anything out of the ordinary then get the authorities I Guess.. but just alil advice for u try to make better choices next time and not idiotic 1s like this one
2007-02-16 10:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to him and say "I don't think were right for each other...So I'm breaking up with you. But! we can still be close friends if you want. I'm sorry, but I just don't think were meant to be with each other. I'm sorry." That should work on the count of he's not a girl and won't get all mad about it. Good Luck!
2007-02-16 10:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by TheTallGuy55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is going to take time. although the minute you halfway experience like it, you want to commence going out with acquaintances and attempt to have a sturdy time. you'll meet new adult adult males and could probably have a sparkling boyfriend in the previous too lengthy. that's miles more desirable sensible to chop up now, somewhat of likely getting married and then finally end up divorced. sturdy success!
2016-11-03 21:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by canevazzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him in person that you just dont feel the same about him as he does you and you think you bith will be better off friends but dont lie to what ever you do thats just worse for him later on
2007-02-16 10:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he is going too fast for you....and trust me, it seems like he IS going too fast! Just say that you do like him but he is moving way too fast and thats just not you, say that because of this you have to break up...........OR you could say that your parents found out about your relationship, if they dont already know, and that they told you, you cant go out anymore!
Or if your parents do know and he knows they know, say that your parents dont like him and if you see him anymore you will be grounded for a month, then say that you praise your parents and there decisions!
dont know if this helped much, but he IS going TOO fast!
2007-02-16 10:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just don't like him like that, and that the two of your are better off just being friends. And try to hook him up with a nice girl
2007-02-16 10:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really hasn't been that long. Just call him and say, I'm so sorry about this, but I just don't want to date right now and I don't think this relationship was what I was looking for. Be honest, but tactful.
2007-02-16 10:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy answer for this question. best advise for you would be completely honest with him. If he is a true friend he will respect that, it may take a little time however. Please dont give him lies. Lies are not fair to both parties involved.
take it for what its worth and good luck to you
2007-02-16 10:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by scentless_apprentice02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋