okay I have gone out with him before and we had this problem... its why I broke up with him because of it. he is waayyy too shy and on the phone... He called me today and were getting back together pretty much all it is is awkward silence I cant ever think of what to say to him. please help me think of what to say to hi to make him talk I mean I ask him questions and stuff like that but I cant ever seem to make him talk more
2007-02-16 09:52:01 · 10 answers · asked by *Madison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi! I've had this problem too. The best thing to do is to remember that not everyone has good phone skills. Alot of people can't talk to a person when they can't see their face and have a decent conversation or just feel weird talking on the phone, guys especially (us girls are more used to the phone than guys).
Try other things like e-mail or IM or Messenger. Chances are he'll be better at those because he can plan better what he's going to say and take his time. Is he just as shy in person? If a guy is way to shy it can totally aggravate a girl. You have to make the decision of keeping him as a boyfriend if you two can hardly communicate due to his shyness.
But if he's just shy on the phone and can hold his own in person or myspace then maybe he's just not a phone person. That's something you'll have to accept and that's okay. Unfortunately there isn't much to do about his reluctance to talk. If you can get him talking about a subject he's really interested in or (if he likes debating) try debating about something. Also, sometimes people feel more comfortable to hear the other person talk. So if you wanna just go and talk for a while that's fine. Unfortunately, it takes two to have a conversation no matter how hard one person tries. So maybe phone conversations should not happen regularly. Talk through e-mail or texting when you can't see eachother and you two can work on the phone problem.
Just let him know how you are feeling, that always helps!
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-16 10:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Tweety bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is shy keep bugging him about him beain too shy now my g/f was shy also but no on the phone in person i have been with her for 10 months and she is still shy but im getting somewhere so its not hopless . uhhhmm ok here a few ideas since im a guy ok sexual things-like whats ur favorite postion the have u done this or that game uhhhmm also find out is he kinky cause this will open him more if he can talk about these things ask when u go out what should i wear and keep bugging him dont stop i can tell u care ur getting back together so i know u dont wanna call it quits so also ask t.v shows , movies and fun things he loves to do ask about his past his history and ask to see pics of him when he was lil write him a lil love letter type note ask to get one from him just go all out on it he will open up
2007-02-16 09:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by jnco_jnco_jnco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what he's doing right now, ask him what he did most of the day and ask details, talk about something your both interested in, if that doesn't work then talk to him more in person and try the phone thing again, if the only reason you broke up with him was because he wasn't talking to you as much on the phone, that's callous, if he isn't talking at all then maybe you better leave him alone
2007-02-16 09:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been a problem in the past, they don't just go away....Conversation should flow easily with someone you are in a relationship with. Communication is key. Ask some questions, then have him elaborate on the answers he gives. If it gets to be like pulling teeth, you should rethink this relationship. Also in a good relationship you should be able to have a few comfortable silences.
2007-02-16 09:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by onekoolkat_31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what he is interested in and talk about that. My boyfriend loves football, and if I even say one little thing about it, he won't shut up. Hopefully that will work. If it doesn't work then you just have to face the fact that some guys just aren't talkers, and about 90% of guys hate talking on the phone to begin with.
2007-02-16 09:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by VDub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok all you have to do is talk to him about it because if you dont talk to him about it you will never really get to know eachother thats how me and my old boy friend got to gether i told him if he was all shy on the phone i would jost hang up and never call again but if you arnt that kind of person get a piece of paper and wright down what you want to say to himpractice it untill you feel comfterble saying it......... if you want more information email me
2007-02-16 10:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by kayla b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you know him very well. If you do go out with him assure you are in a public place or among other friends. I think you were right the first time around.
2007-02-16 10:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he the same way in person? Some people just aren't much of phone talkers.
2007-02-16 09:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telephones, email, text messages.
They aren't intimate. It's a pointless substitute for face time usually.
2007-02-16 09:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys dont really like talking on the phone.
2007-02-16 09:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Wings Fan! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋