ok my bf ryan & i have been 2gether 4 almost 2mos. but he likes my bff nikki more than me. now i dnot no wat 2 do. he left her comment on myspace saying she is hot and sexy. then she had something like dont hold my hand if u r gonna let go........and he was like ill hold on for ever i promise. but he says he loves me 2. he told my sister that he likes me but likes nikki more. now im hurt and wanna die.
ps we r both 13
help me
it might save my life
2007-02-16 09:47:36 · 30 answers · asked by urluvmakesmeweak 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok baby girl, he doesn't deserve you. Drop his *** like a hot potato!! And dont worry when things dont work out between them he will come crawling back to you...they always do! :)
2007-02-16 09:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ambyre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very young. You are just starting to feel new emotions and they are very powerful - but you have let your brain control you.
You know nothing about life at 13. You just have very powerful emotions.
There are so many different things in the world beside the opposite sex. And there are a lot of guys out there. Do you really think that in the united states ryan is the only guy for you? there are over 100 million to choose from? He just happens to live near you and attend your school.
There is so much more. I lived in Italy and had a wonderful romance with a beautiful Italian girl on a Tuscan wine estate for a year. I lived in New York City for a while and had a lot of girlfriends.
They were all great and fun, and I loved them all, but we all moved on.
You sound like a wonderful girl, and ryan really has not done anything wrong. There are many other guys you could date, but really try to get good grades and go to college because the best girls and the most educated girls get the best guys in the future.
You will look at ryan and those strong emotions and laugh later. I read my ex-girlfriends notes about some guy that she dated in 8th and 9th grade and it is so silly ("Edwin").
It is good to have real emotions, so many people dont, just get a handle on them. Study, study, study.
2007-02-16 18:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by RandallL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ought to let him go. I know it's hard, because you like him. But you are only 13. I know it hurts a lot right now, but soon it'll go away.
Now. About your friend. She's not a good friend, if you ask me. Friends don't flirt with their friend's boyfriends. It just doesn't happen. You need to have a talk with her and let her know how you feel about what she's been saying to him.
Your boyfriend doesn't know about love. Neither do you. You and him are way too young to understand what love is.
Let him go. Talk to your friend. And then...go chill with some of your friends and have a good time being single for a while. Concentrate on other things until the pain goes away.
13 is young. Boys will be round forever. Have high standards, and don't settle for whoever is round. You deserve the best.
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2007-02-16 17:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, at the age of 13 you have to realize that there is a lot more of more important life ahead of you. When you get out of school and I mean college - not just H.S. you are going to be able to meet someone who is hopefully mature and responsible. You can't expect a 13 yr old BOY to be faithful. Did you really think you were going to marry him and ride off in a white chariot togethe. Wake up honey, you are having fun right now. Play the field, because after your married it will be too late. You don't want to make your future husband feel the same way that you feel right now, do you?
2007-02-16 17:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all, people say love can come at any age. I guess that's true. But to me I think 13 is a little young. I don't think you can fully understand love at that age. And I knew that. I didn't see why people would date someone if they knew they wouldn't be with them for the rest of their life. That's why I waited till I was almost 17 (which some people say that's still to young) because I would know exactly what love was. So... conclusion... brake up with him... don't date for a while until you know that you actually truly love someone. Don't just jump right back into dating.
2007-02-16 17:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"It might save my life" is not something to joke about. You've got plenty of time ahead of you.
Tip #1: Be cautious here. You opened up yourself for a whole lot of criticism by posting this in such a public space. It sounds like you and your friends have some maturing to do, which can only occur through experience, and there are plenty of people who answer questions here that do not show compassion or empathy for certain behaviors.
Tip #2: Have a frank discussion, without any insults, name calling or finger pointing, with your BF.
The best relationships are based on non-selfish intentions. That's applicable to you and your BF, and your BFF.
However, you also have to watch out for yourself. The number one thing I look for in a girl is that she has to like me back. If she doesn't then i don't like her so much because she doesn't meet my first requirement.
2007-02-16 18:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 your not mature enough to even be in these situations and your parents shouldn't allow you to be exclusive with one person. Everything is too dramatic and you can't handle the emotions.
Anyways, so you want to like someone that likes someone else better. Already your learning what poor self-esteem is and also that your not ready for something like this.
You need to move on. He's using you like most young guys do. He likes you because you worship him, and he likes the other girl because she' super pretty. Your learning a tough lesson at a young age. Start hanging out in groups and don't get so caught up in this. Eventually you'll forget this.
In the future you'll find a guy that treats you right and cares for you. He's too young to be sensitive and he's hurt you, but don't let him do it anymore. Your better than that, and deserve more than that.
P.S. I hope your not using their real names. Not smart in todays internet world. Good luck.
2007-02-16 17:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are 13, he doesnt love you, he doesnt know what love is. Dont let your dreams be crushed i know when you are in the moment it seems like nothing else matters but life will go on and Im sure you will find love someday. Dont get caught up in guy yet, they are far too immature. Keep your head up and dont do anything stupid.
2007-02-16 17:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by dancer_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going through the same thing right now! if he loves you like he says he dose he will hold your hand forever and nikki would totally be out of the question!!! well evan though its hard you diserve better! dump him! and i will be hard to see them 2gether but i needs to happen!! if nikki is really your best friend she wouldnt do this to you!!! dump them both!!!!
good luck :)
2007-02-16 17:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kill yourself take a deep breath I've been threw this trust me it is not fun. You don't know what is gonna happen but if they decide to cheat on you then you find out shes gonna ignore you and hes not gonna care. Dump him and let her know you can't be her friend if she does this to you and stick to it find comfort in other friends and even though we probably don't know eachother I'll be praying for you good luck
2007-02-16 17:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by Arc_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋