hi has anyone been through child sexual abuse (as a victim)? I really need to talk to someone?

Question

just when I thought I was dealing with the horrendous abuse I endured at the hands of my Grandad I was raped by a man in his car asking for directions WHATS WRONG WITH ME????????????? I'm going out of my mind

Answer 1

OH MY, yes I have been through child abuse eugh!!!!! I really feel for you as I experienced something similar with my uncle but OMG to have been through a rape as well you are amazing to even be talking coherently........seek professional help and be strong! you can email me privately I will email you back ASAP!

bless you sweetie x x x x

Answer 2

Kiriash - I really hope you know inside you that absolutely none of this is your fault - it IS the fault of the men that prey on women (and children) like you.

As a child you have no control and are at the mercy of those around you, and once you have been abused you may lack a sense of control. I think abuse as an adult has a lot to do with how much in control of your life you feel you are - it's something that has to come to you and you have to work on - go to your local library and look in the social science section for books on gaining control of your life, on assertiveness (people recommend martial arts not just for physical protection but also for the sense of control and power it gives you) and take a few minutes each day to tell yourself that you are important and you are in charge.

You WILL get there.

I don't beleve in karma - bad things happen often at random, but you can sometimes help to prevent it with a certainty in yourself.

Answer 3

You really should report this to authorities and seek counseling. The trauma of being raped can have a very negative influence on you and your future. The sooner you take care of it the better results you will achieve. If you neglect this problem you may end up being bitter with psychological issues against men in general, which may cause you will never marry or have kids. It may also cause an onset of depression and self-hate... Don't delay and get help. There are rape hotlines such is this one: 1-800-871-7741 or 1-800-656-4673.

Answer 4

Theres nothing wrong with you, just a lot wrong in our world and some of the people in it.I was a victim as a child,and im amazed at how many people ive met in my life since who were also victims.As a child this kind of thing wasnt talked about, but nowadays kids are a lot more aware and there is a lot more help out there.These vile,sickos really destroy peoples lives, my heart goes out to you.We cant change the past sadly,but can look forward to a brighter future.The memories will never go away totally, but will become more manageable with time.Try not to let it eat away at you, or it can really make you ill.Talk to someone about it and try and move on.good luck to you.

Answer 5

When I was 11 I was grabbed while walking home from school and raped anally by a group of boys all about 18 years old. I am a male and men get raped as well. Im sorry it happened to you. Although I dont like to admit this I was concieved by rape as my mom was 14 and got pregnant after she was attacked by a 17 year old football player. She gave me up for adoption but we are close now. My adoptive family and I fell out a few months ago.

Answer 6

As everyone has already said there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, you've obviously had a really awful start in life and you need to get some proper counselling to help you get through this and rebuild your life.
But as many have also said you really need to report this man, if you can remember anything at all about him, his car etc. The police have specially trained officers to deal with this type of offence, you can insist on female officers only and they will also have access to counsellors.
You will get through this, it does fade with time and support. My best wishes are with you.

Answer 7

Bless your heart, I think you need to stop blaming yourself YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME..go to someone you feel comfortable talking to and know wont judge you, it doesn't have to be your parents and tell them, also, as hard as it sounds you should file criminal charges..if this happened within 24 hours and you have some clothes or other evidence they can use to help find the guy. You have to talk to someone, this is very important and pray to God for strength, you will get through this. Remember, whatever doesn't kill you (no matter how horrendous) only makes you stronger. I will say a prayer for you. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Oh hun how terriable i havent been through it personally but have had friends that have and first there is nothing wrong with you it is NOT your fault. You need to talk to someone soon. Dont bottle it up find someone you trust maybe a doctor to they will point you in the right direction. Please get help there is light at the end dont give up stay positive and remember you are wonderfull and a strong person. Much love and hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 9

I was sexually abused by my step father from the age of 5. I am now 45 and it still hurts so much, I have just been addmmitted to
hospital because i'm suicidal I too blame myself and think there is somethink wrong with me, I feel for you and anyone else who has gone through the same.

Answer 10

Nothing is wrong with you. These jerks have a sixth sense for picking out victims.
Get a report in, a rape kit done and hospital will get you to a rape counselor. You need someone who has experience with rape victims.
You need concrete evidence taken and a face to face encounter, not nebulous entities on the internet.
You have survived before, you can survive this.
Good luck, honey.