A guy who i've been seeing for nearly a year now is madly in love with me,he'd do anything for me,this guy would literally die for me and kiss the ground i walk on but the problem is..i dont feel the same,i've tried hard to love him but i cant force myself,he acts very immaturely and i havent had sex with him in 6months because he reeks of cigarettes and spits and swears,i wish he would change but i know thats not gonna happen,i met this other guy a few months back who i totally fell head over heels for,then i found out he was seeing another woman from the office where we work,i was devastated. The guy i want and love i cant have and the guy who is mad about me, i dont love him,what am i doing wrong?
2007-02-16 09:37:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take a step back from relationships & look after yourself for a bit. Have fun doing your own thing with your friends & then meet someone new who will make you happier.
2007-02-16 09:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by ATP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that you are only still with him because you are afraid of being alone, and I'm sure that in certain lights - this chap is pretty good, buy its not enough is it? I think you should call it a day.
Imagine this please:-
Lets say you realise that you break up with this guy and have all the upset but you get over it. Imagine now its six months later and you're now single. You have the world at your feet. You see hunky guys everywhere exactly as you like them. Now you're single you can go up a talk to them ash you wish. How does that make you feel?
Seriously girl, if you're not going to " end up with him" then you are wasting you're life and you only have one of those.
2007-02-16 17:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Girugamesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not doing anything wrong unless your seeing the guy who loves you that you don't love cause that's just leading him on and if he finds out it will hurt him more. But if you have even the little incline of feelings for this guy u don't love you will spare his feelings and the other guys a jerk because he didn't tell you he was seeing someone at that point when you met him i know its a bit harsh saying this but i know wa its like to be led on I've been there myself in the exact same situation!!!
2007-02-16 17:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by Halloween Child !!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are doing anything wrong, maybe talk to the guy who really likes you and tell him what bugs you, as for the other guy im afraid to say thats life, not nice I know, but let me tell you this, you really dont know what is around the corner, as 1 chapter ends another one opens, good luck x
2007-02-16 17:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot force yourself to fall in love with your boyfriend. Perhaps you do not like his manners. I like men and people n general with good manners. You should probably find the way how to break up this relationship as you are already looking for another boyfriend. Perhaps you could tell him that it is not working for you, be gentle not to hurt him.
Men and women like playing cats and mice. Men behave more like cats; they love chasing women and enjoy these kind of games. Most of men do not like easy women.
I once read one book called The Complete book of Rules by Ellen Fine and Hellen Schneider. The book teaches you how to behave with men in a very sensible way. It worked for me. I remember one summer I had about 8 guys chasing me. One of them became my husband. His manners were better before we got married though :) But they are bearable.
2007-02-16 17:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is be by yourself for awhile if you want things to work with your current b/f ask him to clean up his act, and the other guy leave him alone cause he isn't gonna dump what he has now so move on with your life.
2007-02-16 17:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are doing nothing wrong! believe me the same thing is happening right now! i had a bf that was the same way and i liked another guy who had a gf.. but i didnt feel right. i broke up with the guy and ya. i got crap from his friends.. but now 2 months later.. the guy i liked ended up breaking up with his gf and we are totally hanging out now. i say do what you think is right. and if you dont feel the same about nasty cigerette dude. i say tell him.. if he doesnt change. leave him..
2007-02-16 17:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by pj. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be positive, stay away from the dick head, you are worth so much more, remember you are wanted even if the feeling is not reciprocated.
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2007-02-16 17:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by churchls0904 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club of life .Please dont try to blame yourself .this is not yours or your boyfreinds problem you just both have different opinions , the truth is you dont want to be with your current boyfreind ,your just hanging on to him while you make up ypour mind and its not actually fair , although i do understand your motives,just tell him how you feel. and end the relationship if necassary.
2007-02-16 18:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by patsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking into it too deeply. when you really love someone you accept all the good things and all the bad ,everyone has faults you learn to live with them. thats love.
2007-02-16 17:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jaz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋