I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two years now, at the beginning everything was great and I fell in love with him, he's cheated on me 4 times and one of the times was with someone that I had a serious conflict with. He always tries to pick arguments with me over unnecessary stuff and I'm really tired of it. I really do want to be with him but his continious nagging and bickering always seems 2 upset me. A lot of people wonder why I stay with him because he has no car or no job. our whole relatonship I've been able 2 hold down my top 10% status in school and keep a job I just don't understand why he can't either. I'm scared 2 leave him because I don't know how 2 live single anymore, everyone says just talk 2 different guys but I don't want to do anything wrong because I know it will come back on me, I love him a lot I just don't know if I can take it anymore!
2007-02-16 09:17:01 · 14 answers · asked by Grand Prix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's cheated 4 times?
DUMP HIM AND MOVE ON!!!
2007-02-16 09:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
three chances...once you use them up..be done with it...kinda like baseball...probably the constant trying to seperate fact from fiction is driving you crazy.......you'll forgive him for one thing...then in 7 days it is a new thing...perhaps if things have been simple...dudette, I did this, I did this and then I did this. things would have been forgiven..building a house of cards have never worked out and he should have figured this out the first strike and the second...he probably thinks he can get away from it..but you know every time he lays down that queen of decption, you ignore it though thinkin it can't be true cause he wouldn't do that...as far as the job and the vehicle...you started the relationship knowing those things...duh....he probably was very sucessful when he had someone to support him..in my mind LOVE should always conquer security...it is trump card...
2007-02-16 17:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by BEN H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pick a loser and that's fine if you wish to go nowhere in life but down into the lower levels of hell holding hands if not drop the relationship like a hot rock and find the real deal that is waiting out there to share life not be carried through it!!
2007-02-16 17:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your situation sounds alot like my own. Me and my boy have been together for almost 4 years and it seems like everytime it's going good he meets a new girl that he likes or he picks a fight over something stupid. I know exactly how you feel...it is soo hard to get over them...I still haven't left my boyfriend and everytime I say i'm going to somehow he does something sweet and I can't let go...I think the best way for us to do it is start little by little spending more time away from them and distanting our selves with them...maybe not talk every day and then keep increasing the distnace...but if you find a good answer and it works let me know. THanks and good luck
2007-02-16 17:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by choirboyzryummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to be single is to find out who you are, what you want out of life, what are your passions and turn offs. You are going to have to get some courage and decide that you can be single and happy. Only after you can be happy with who you are can you even hope to have a meaningful relationship with anyone else. You are co dependent right now. He is your excuse for not treating yourself better. No wonder you are scared to be with yourself. If other people did to us what we do to ourselves we would beat the heck out of them. Now stop.
2007-02-16 17:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheated on you 4 times? this guy has issues. i'm a firm believer in the idea that people can change, they really can, but if he doesn't want to change for your sake, then he is not worth your time. and about living single...you're over-thinking it...it's just life with one less person...
2007-02-16 17:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by shakespeareismyboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not going to marry him and commit the rest of your life to this lifestyle, dump him. Don't stay with a person out of fear, stay because you have a deep, mature, respectful, emotionally secure love.
2007-02-16 17:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up now b/c he is not worth it any guy who cheats on a woman should be beaten it makes it hard for men lioke me to find love
2007-02-16 17:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by gohanss464601 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give it up now he cheated on you four times, he picks fights with you i think its time to move on find someone who really cares about you
2007-02-16 17:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, It's time and a half to discard him like the trash he is, he doesn't respect himself nor you !!!! YOU'LL feel a great sense of relief ! and enjoy the freedom of your own sense of self-esteem.
2007-02-16 17:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by Aquarius/Purple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋