My dad sent me an email last night full of "fatherly advice" about how I could expect nothing but misery if I stayed with my fiance because he isn't a Christian.
Here's the thing. I'm not a Christian either, (I used to be, but that is a loong story) but I want my fiance to know what it is that he's up against.
Should I show him this email from my Dad, or just leave it alone?
2007-02-16 09:15:08 · 20 answers · asked by arwens_curse 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hard one. It all depends on the type of person your fiance is and the type of person your father is. If it were me, I would tell my fiance. By telling him, he would know to be careful around him with the things he says or how he acts (cursing, etc.) Also, telling him could open up a discussion about somethings that could help strengthen your relationship or give you some security in marrying him. You should also talk to your father face to face and tell him what you think and how you feel. You say that you are no longer a Christian, for your own personal reasons, so it should not be an issue for your father if he knows and understands that. Your fiance should also talk to him. Maybe you to can talk to him together. Teamwork. That's what me and my fiance do. Any situation that comes our way we handle it together because together we are strong. It sounds cheesy, but it is so true. As a Christian myself, and don't take this personally, your father was wrong in what he did. The bible does not say that Christians must marry Christians. God changes lives. He may change yours, your fiance's, or your father's. Nobody knows. But he was crossing the line by saying that you would live a life of misery by marry him. Your life has been miserable since you been with him.
2007-02-16 09:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by nicky3162002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Letter Of Disapproval
2016-12-12 06:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, seeing that he is your fiance you should be trying to build a trusting foundation between you two. Hence I think it is extremely important that you do talk to him about it although from your tone "to know what it is that he's up against" it sounds like you're viewing it as a confrontation? I don't know correct me if i'm wrong but was there some fallout with your dad over you not being christian anymore? Maybe i'm just over analysing; in any case tell your boyfriend, and then you guys can sort it out together. Who knows maybe you two as a united front might be able to sort it out with your dad easier than if you went it alone.
2007-02-16 09:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your fiance to be hurt then show him. Otherwise keep it to yourself and you talk to your dad about how you feel. There are some secrets that are ok to keep in a relationship and this would be one of them. You just really need to sit down with your dad and set him straight. Religion is not what make a person good or bad.
2007-02-16 09:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have no intentions of breaking off the engagement and really love this man, you shouldn't show him the email.
It will only cause more stress in the relationship, and always be a sore spot at family events in the future.
Your dad's parents didn't choose his wife, and he has no right to choose your husband.
Delete the email and pretend it never happened.
Your dad will get over it, hopefully!
Congrats on your upcoming wedding.
2007-02-16 09:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would show him. This is the guy you are planning to spend the rest of you life with, right? HE is your companion, and best friend, not your dad. Let him know how you feel about it, and let him know that you are on the same page as him. You are going to be growing your life together, with or without your dad. You dad is the one who has to accept this, not your fiance! Hope this helps!!
2007-02-16 09:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
leave it alove, never ever tell him about what your dad thinks, delete that email; after all he is your dad and you want to see them friend :) be wise ;) don't tell guys all the family , . . secrets, they won't understand and after 3 4 years being together they will change to something that you won't believe so never trust them in that; and love your father; show your love to him, you can just seperate this two love for sometimes; when you talk to your dad just tell him that you love him and you understand him, and you don't want to talk about "your fiancee" at this moment and what you wanna do at this time is focusing on your career or school .... be smart girl ... they will be always your parents, but fianceee boyfriend , you never know , they can become ex-...
but wish you the best
2007-02-16 09:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tom 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From someone who didn't listen to that "fatherly advice" & has had 2 failed marriages, you might want to listen. He cares & wants what's best for you. Also, whether you want to believe it or not, he may see something in your fiance that you do not. "LOVE IS BLIND". Just consider it.
2007-02-16 09:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. That letter was for you and you alone. You either take the advice or you don't. But don't show or tell your boyfriend.
2007-02-16 09:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell ur father that being a christian doesn't make u a better person first of all.. second tell you man that he is up to somethign vary bad but don't mantion the email
2007-02-16 09:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋