hello guys ia married too i have amajor problem i met up with a married man who like me we are both married married he is very handsome oin metting him he bought me flowers he kissed me but nothing went further we both agreed to wait we tect each toher continoulsy we agreed to meet we bth agot our selves ready then he said on the day we were supposed to meet up and he was waitng to see me he said he had an emergency one of his sons in jured hi mself and he couldnt see me that night we got ourselves ready.so in the end deeply sympathy and he thanked me for my support and sympathy i text him back in valentines day message but since wednesday he hasnt text me back i dont know what to do i miss him terriby now it doesnt matter that we nevr got to gether but i miss him still help me guys what do id do do i text him or just let it go.
2007-02-16 09:08:15 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Remember this: what goes around, comes around!
2007-02-16 09:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Wiseyngsoul 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You do have a major, problem. You are lookign in the wrong places for Love when you have husband already.
Do you know one of the greatest things to experence is lonelinest, why not try and put some spice in your own marriage.
You are going to hurt more than you are hurting now.
You know there is a proverb that go like this, whatever you sow is what you will reap.
You need to leave this man alone and work on your own marriage with your husband.
put the spark back into your marriage.
2007-02-16 09:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by lou l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heart is a funny thing. Please take a moment and look at your current marriage and put yourself if your husbands shoes. Are you really read to tell him that you are leaving him for someone else? Willing to loose it all? Because ultimately that is the road you are choosing by doing this. Is your secret friend willing to leave his family? If not, then it's not going anywhere, why risk yourself, your family, and your reputation for someone who doesn't love you enough (and you don't love enough) to be exclusive with oneanother? Your feeling for comfort maybe derived from not receiving enough 'love' in your current marriage. If so, then work that out with your husband, not somone elses! What goes around does come around, I am a firm believer. I honestly hope you take what I have said into consideration. I know it will hurt at first, but with time, you will see that hiding about yalls spouses is/was not the way to do it.
2007-02-16 09:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spell check would've been REALLY helpful in your post...please use it in the future.
Not only should you let him go but you should block his # so you cannot get communication from him...you are both married, so he's not "the one" for you nor are you for him...you're both cheaters and need to think about what you are doing to your spouses.
Do you have no conscience? I guess you wouldn't care if your husband was chasing after another woman then, right? I mean, if it's okay for you then it's okay for him...so why even be married?
What goes around, comes around...you've built up some bad karma here...are you really willing to risk building up some more over a guy you might find COMPLETELY unsuitable if you really got to know?
2007-02-16 09:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill tell u what if u really want to know what to do it simple why dont u try asking ur husband this question and see what kind of results u get from him because hes the only one that will be able to tell u what u should do and oh yea dont forget to tell him how u were trying to talk to this man on what is supposed to be a wonderful day valentines and do talk about that little kiss u gave him its people like u who ruin others lifes think about the kids that are going to be involved in this mess i hope u wouldnt want to tear apart there minds because ill tell u what it might fill good to u but it will screw up the kids heads no prob ive seen it happen it happened to me and my girls my ex left me for her dream so u can say and now im watching her go through hell what a shame. good luck to u.
2007-02-16 09:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by kalamorm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a shortage of men where you live?
You know, posting such a question you will get answers that you will not like
He is a married man. Why do you feel the need to wreck that for his wife? What did his wife do to you? I don't care if they are having maritial problems and that he tells you that his wife can be a b!tch. Marriage is not always a basket of roses.
Move on and find someone who is unattached.
2007-02-16 09:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he got cold feet, or was not allowed out, do not get in this any further it will lead to misery you are both married what will you get out of it only being his bit on the side and when you get caught it will be your husband who has to pick the bits up. Good luck, you are not in love with him you just want something that you cannot have.
2007-02-16 10:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my hun ok so you arent a whore but what you are doing is so so wrong its really bad stop it marriage is very special and you never got together he isnt the one and even if he is then maybe you should wait and divorce your husband and then get with him but he doesnt want you and you are married
i asked a boyfriend once "what if we get married and one day you meet the one girl you know you were ment to be with?" and do you know what he said "well i will love you forever and ever and i will make you the one for me"
girl if you dont stop this right now you will regret it for the rest of your life so stop it
2007-02-16 09:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married and you are married it is best all round not to persuit this man any further. Nothing has happened with him so maybe he just wanted a friend. It is best not to get involved with a married man it can only cause you heart ache.
2007-02-16 09:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are married then you obviously aren't happy if you are so attracted to this man. free yourself from your marriage then if you & this other guy are meant to be it will happen.
personally, i believe a relationship where 2 people have destroyed the lives of former partners by cheating at the start is doomed to fail. you could never trust each other due to the way in which you met, if he would leave his present wife for you then who is to say he wouldn't leave you in the future?
presumably when you got married, you thought your husband was the one too?
2007-02-16 09:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by ATP 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are both in relationships that are not making you happy and cheating is not the answer. Men use other women for their own happiness but usually dont leave the wife - if he wants you, tell him to get out of the marriage FIRST, same for you. Get out the marriage if you are not happy.
2007-02-16 09:14:02 · answer #11 · answered by Crystal S 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋