I am 38yrs old, MUM died of ovarian & breast cancer, whats your story?

Answer 1

sorry about your mam i have just lost my gran she was full of the big C but my story i wish i could tell but i carnt has much has iwould love to say. but my mum left me my brother and my dad when i was 2 and my brother was1 we have never seen her since so ever time i see a story like yours it gets me thinking is she still alive or dead and sould i be worried now i have kids of my own and worry for them my daughter has a heart murmar so has she got that from my mum its one question i will never be able to answer,sorry for going on and i am sorry about your mum and all the loved ones see has left behind my thoughts are with you god bless

Answer 2

All these sad stories of loss, this disease affects so many lives. My mum died of breast cancer when i was fifteen, I am now thirty four and a couple of years ago approached my GP to get tests for the gene, i was referred to Cambridge hospital to have my family history researched.
They came back to me with information after filling out a history form, apparently I am at the same risk as everyone else and no more, however they have found a link with my dads family.
My dad has had cancer three times- bowel, lung and skin. The bowel and the skin were linked but the lung was not (luckily I still have him). He comes from a family of twelve siblings, and on investigtion a signifcant number of them had been affected, I have found out that the same cancer has also affected some cousins.
The doctor has already got a sample of my dads tumour from the hospital he was treated at and has tested it. They have told us that there is a link now and it will be approx another year before my sister and I can be tested ourselves. The whole process does take a long time as it is very complex looking for the faulty gene.
I now am able to have colonoscopy tests every two years, and have written to all my cousins so that they can be screened if they wish. This gene also causes cancer of the ovary and womb but i am told there is no reliable screening available yet.
I see this information as a positive, I know some would rather not know but in experience early detection makes a difference between life and death.
My thoughts are with you x

Answer 3

So sorry about your mum I am 38 yrs old too and my mum died of bowel and liver cancer 8 months ago at the age of 60 after struggling with the disease for a year and 5 months. I miss her so much, she was my best friend. I am lost with out her but I have to keep strong for my four kids. I am grateful for the happy times we spent together. She appears in my dreams quite a lot and its because of these wonderful dreams that when I wake up in the mornings make me go through the day a little bit better.

Answer 4

Jackie i am so sorry to hear about your mum, i know how you are feeling hun! I lost my husband to stomach cancer after being married for a little less then 6 years, that was 11 yrs ago he passed away at the age of 35. Not a day goes by that i dont think about him. I miss him so much he was not only my husband but he was my life, and that has never been the same.

Answer 5

Hey, my mother died of breast cancer when she was only 44, and my aunt died of breast cancer when she was only 46. You can bet that my sisters and I held our breaths as we reached those ages! They were both diagnosed at age 39, so that was another troubling year. The good news is that so far, none of my sisters has developed cancer, nor have I. yes we do get regular check ups, but so far, so good.
There is a book called motherless daughters, it is helpful in figuring out how to deal with loss, and it also reminds you that you are always a daughter and will always have reminders of what you have lost.

Answer 6

I'm 29,my Mum is currently being treated for bowel cancer with secondaries in the liver,it's also spread to the rectum,uterus & bladder. She's had a colostomy,and is on chemo. They haven't decided if they can operate yet-find out on Thursday,if not it's a matter of how long they can keep it at bay.She might have to have her bladder removed (and have another bag),and a big liver op.She survived ovarian cancer a number of years ago. I've been caring for her since Summer.
My partner also lost her father to lung cancer last year,we moved in to care for him,was very hard to watch.Now we care for her paraplegic Mum.
My Granddad died of lung cancer before i was born,my uncle also died of lung cancer from asbestos poisoning,my uncle died from bowel cancer. Must mention Christie's hospital though-they've been amazing esp. Dr.Mark Saunders the consultant-and the chemo nurses,all bloody amazing!!

Answer 7

I am 55 yrears old. My father died of Multiple myeloma when I was 27 (1979) mom in heart surgery (1965) a brother leukemia 3 years agao. sister ovarian cancer 6 yeaqrs ago. a brother prostate cancer 4 years ago with 8 lymph glands removed. he is going strong. I lave leukopenia..low white cells. lump in my breast. i live each day to the fullest! We need a cure!!!!!

Answer 8

So sorry to hear about your mum, i lost my wonderful mum to Lung cancer just last month and it feels like somebody has ripped my bloody heart out and smeared it all over my face.
Her mother also died of cancer of the womb when my mum was just 21 years old.
Cancer really is a shitty shitty thing and destroys so many families every hour of every waking day.
Be strong and i know that it's no consolation, but your mum is at peace and i hope she's hooked up with my mum and their watching us both!
Take care. x x

Answer 9

my nana is diagonosed with breast cancer touch wood she is very tough and getting though the treatment it depends on how worse the cancer is luckily my nana's cancer was a little tumour in her breast she has had her breast removed the day i found out was the worst day of my life as my mum and dad spilt up that night and it feels like the whole world has stopped but you just have to keep going in life.

Answer 10

My sincere sympathy. If there is a history of these cancers in your family, perhaps you should inquire about being tested for the BRCA 1 gene. Your regional cancer society or a genetic counselor might be able to tell you if and how you could go about this.