Ive been dating this guy since December...he is 33, Im 25. He is very macho and secure in his masculinity...sometimes he makes comments about other girls like someones bikini is sexy...he is also sensitive and sweet and will tell me things like "only you" after we sleep together, etc. He takes me out every week several times, and we spend almost everyday together, talking, working out, etc. He really enjoys sex in general...he commented one time when i asked a question...he said "why would i want any other girls when the sex with u is so good"...that was me being insecure and thinking he was dating other people...he is not and he said he just wants to be dating me...ive told him i didnt want to define the relationship yet...now i kind of think i want to...and he said the same thing i first said, keep it cool, be friends, i just want u to be comfortable...is he using me?
2007-02-16 09:06:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's an aging player
2007-02-16 09:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he's using you. It's ok for boys to look at other girls and if he says the bikini is sexy- maybe it is, and maybe he thinks it would look sexy on you too. He's said 'only you' and that the sex is good, so what are you worried about? It sounds like he's trying to take it easy bc that's what you wanted to begin with.
If you're ready to make it serious, talk to him about it. The worst thing that could happen is that he says no. Then you move on...it's only been a few weeks, better to know now right?
2007-02-16 17:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like that relationship is pretty much defined if you two are spending almost every waking moment together. Something in you is making you hesitant about this guy. He sounds like a guy a hundred girls would love to be involved with 100 %. No, I don't think he is using you at all. But why are you so wary about him.... why the insecurity??
2007-02-16 17:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be. Is he divorced? That would make a good reason for why he is taking it "slow". How soon did you start having sex with him after you "got together" with him? Sounds like the two of you need to sit down together and have a private talk. Find out --is he using you? Ask him. You two need to be honest with each other-and see how it goes. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-16 17:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
indeed. you both are asking for it. you didnt want to define the relationship and every thing was good and now you want more. classic girl move. you know what you where getting into so if it doesnt go your way dont be upset. no he is not using you, sex is the basis of your relationship. and a healthy one. but it seems that ur not making it healthy.
2007-02-16 17:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Alycee C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may, but be smart, you don't know that, maybe he loves you but he wants to show himself cool and wants to believe that he is a sex partner with you...
don't talk about commitment , sex , love or anything else with him.
2. don't tell him that you love him, or ask him if he loves you.
3. keep abit distance from him, make yourself busy with friends... and be very nice and happy when you are with him
4. go out with your girl friends more often
5. and reduce the meeting to 1 night per week, not always
6. when you have sex with him, don't talk alot, be happy and enjoy and care about yourself more :D don't tell him anything about your plan about your mind, just reduce the sex...
weekends, weekends go out more often with your friends...
... continue that for couple of weeks,... you will see if he loves you , if it is just sex or not :D :D :D
2007-02-16 17:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, u must be his trophy..naww he probably sayin the truth..but if you don't have that connection then it isn't there...it is all or nothing...it is not being controling people..it is the definition of a partnership...he can look, think, and be "wowe soze" about a hot lookin girl...but, when you look in someone's eyes and only see their aura or their soul...know exactly what they are thinkin or fantasizing about...that is what is real...ya can't change that..that is real life...I have been havin dirty dog sex and look over and see that while she is bein naughty....that is what the world's about...sex is sex...love is different, partner's are partner's
2007-02-16 17:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by BEN H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could he be using you, when you're the one that didn't want a committment??? I think you're just doing the typical female thing and looking for trouble where there is none...go enjoy your orgasms and forget the drama!
2007-02-16 17:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont think that he is useing u... if he was ud know... he takes u out, u spend time with him... all guys are the same when it comes 2 sex... they just want it bad lol :] just dont worry about it
2007-02-16 17:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me like he isn't using you..maybe he just doesn't want a girlfriend right now. have you asked him that? why don't you try telling him that you would feel more comfortable if yall were "official"?
Good Luck!
2007-02-16 17:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by kumiko2420 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋